- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
For as long as I can remember there has been a big secret on my mothers side of the family. A secret my Auntie has kept to herself for over 40 years.
For years every little argument between my mum and her sister this secret would be bought up to torment her. My mum has tried to find out without success. She has asked if its someting to do with my father. Perhaps he had an affair? but no, my Auntie swore it was such a big secret that my mum would be shocked if she ever found out.
About a month of so ago whilst out to lunch with my mum she told me that she had something on her mind. She told me that she remembers playing with her brother in the yard and over heard her neighbours talking about her and her brother. Neighbour 1 said something like ‘ oh my, Denise has grown up so much’ and the 2nd neighbour said ‘yes she has but you know there was another one, a boy but he died’.
My mum never asked her mother about what she heard. but it has been on her mind since she was a little girl. She told me she had always felt like there was a part of her missing.
My Auntie miscarried twins when she was 18. My mum is wondering whether her mother confided in her sister when she was going her miscarriage and told her that she too had twins but 1 passed away. My Auntie then gave birth to another set of twins a few years later and I always remember my nan being partiulary close to the two of them.
One of my cousins, (daughter of my mums 2nd sister) has just found out she is expecting twins and the day we found out is when my mum confided in me.
My grandmother is no longer with us, she passed away suddently a few years ago as did my grandfather a few years after so the only person who knows the truth is my Auntie. She says she will never tell as she swore she would keep this secret until the day she dies.
This all got me thinking.
I have an account with a geneology site so I searched for births and death in the year my mother was born, along with the city and my mums maiden name. There was 1 record which came back. A Mr John P***** born 1948 died 1948 age 0 in my mums town. Clearly this could be a coincidence but I honestly didnt expect to find anything as it could have been an early miscarriage so it shocked me. The record however does not give the date or month and neither does my mums birth record so I cant be sure but it was interesting nonetheless.
The other interesting thing is my mums younger brother was name John too but has always been called his middle name and nobody has ever known why.
Strange, just thought I would share!!