(Closed) Could this be the big family secret? long!!

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Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Could be….?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Ooooohhhh that IS very interesting!!! It would drive me CRAZY to have that many clues and still not “know’ for certain anything. I don’t know why that’d be such a big thing to keep from your mom though she would have obviously been too young to even remember a sibling so what would have been so horrible about her knowing? Why exactly does your aunt have this KNOWN secret anyway though? I mean if it’s a secret and she doesn’t want anyone to know then why even bring it up in the first place?

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Buzzing bee
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ChocolateLime:  there is only one way to find out –

Go to your Auntie and say ”I know about John, he was born and died in 1948 wasn’t he?” If it’s true you will immediately know by her reaction.

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Busy bee
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ChocolateLime:  I find these types of family secrets so interesting! My mum’s family had a slightly similar story….the rumours were floating around but nobody really spoke about it. Apparently my great-grandmother’s first child died as an infant (not sure how), and then she went on to have 5 more children, one of whom was my grandmother. I randomly googled my great-granfather and great-grandmother’s names and there was an birth record for a baby girl. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

If this is really it, it really isn’t THAT big of a family secret to keep locked away forever…and your mom definitely has the right to know that she had a twin brother. 

I’d definitely confront your Aunt and tell her you already know about it, and see how she acts.

 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

My mom had a twin that died shortly after birth. They were about 2 months early, it wasn’t expected that either would survive but since my mom was the smaller of the two it was surprising that she survived and not her brother. It’s not really a secret but no one ever really talks about it.

If this is the secret perhaps this was just the way your grandma chose to deal with the loss. Some people deal by mourning the loss, others deal by just pretending it never happened.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

Families can be funny with things like that.  My family has all kinds of stories that I’m slowly trying to pull together from the bits and pieces that people will tell.

I think you’ve done some good sleuthing.  It sounds like a pretty plausible secret to me…

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

I just dont see a point in researching it or bringing it up at all. Who knows what sort of stress it could create for people! If you Mom really wanted to know the secret, she could ask your Aunt and be done with it. Its really no one elses business. I would try and respect the fact that someone didn’t want everyone to know. Even if that person isn’t alive anymore. I just don’t get it. 

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