Post # 1
so we have 3 days left at this point to receive our response cards. Most should be coming by mail, some my mom is bringing home because they’re people she works with, others are family dropping them off, any way they’re expected back.
We’ve been trying to be very strict on the fact that our younger sibling CAN NOT all bring guests, (I’m 1 of 4 and he’s 1 of 6) so it would be a lot of extra people.
One of my mother’s good friends is invited, but unfortunately her husband can’t attend. So un-be-knowns to me this friend asks my mom if she can bring her teenage son, who happens to be a good friend of my youngest brothers. She doesn’t even bother to ask me or my Fiance she just says no problem!! HELLO!!!! NOT YOUR WEDDING!!
Soo royally aggrevated at this, because now his brothers have heard about it, being that they go to school with this kid and all want to bring friends or are crying “thats not fair” because they think my brother is bringing him as a friend.
I know the solution is to call her and explain why he can’t come and ask her to come alone or with someone else, but its just irritating!
Post # 3
Hmmm, I don’t know if the siblings complaining were under 18 I would let them bring one friend a piece just to keep them entertained. That way they would have a better time and be out of my hair.
Post # 4
I’m sorry you are having problems. That’s one reason we cut kids of the guest list so we wouldn’t have to worry about who had a ‘friend’ there and who didn’t.
Post # 5
I kinda feel like you’re overrating. You have the space for a plus one so why not accommodate the woman’s son? It’s not like her and her husband and you brother all got together and were scheming against you so your wedding day would be ruined because his friend is going to be there…. I really think you should pick your battles.
Post # 6
I totally understand my fmil is all like oh well so and so is dating someone so you have to invite them. Umm no we dont because unless you want to pay for them I dont agree. We have a budget we cant invite everyones boyfriend or girlfriend. Engaged? Then your totally both invited but otherwise I dont care to have people in my wedding pictures that i dont even know and will probably never see again!
Post # 7
I would say oh well to the rest of the siblings and let the kid come. You have the space and it would be nice for the mom to have a date (even if it is her son). Life isn’t always perfectly fair so I’d just have your other siblings deal, I definately wouldn’t uninvite the son.
Post # 8
Agree with Troubled…
After all, that woman had a +1, he’s not taking anyone else’s seat. The siblings will just have to deal with that .
Post # 9
On the bright side, he’s too young to drink, so you won’t be paying for that… whereas if you had the husband, he probably *would* be drinking…
As for the rest of your siblings, they can’t bring friends. That’s just it. It’s plain and simple, the son is invited as a plus one of someone else. Not you. I honestly wouldn’t even listen to their whining, they’ll be fine.
Post # 10
Why don’t you explain the situation to your siblings? If this woman got an invite for one person and insisted on bringing a date, I would say call her up and politely tell her no. But if she’s entitled to a guest and her husband can’t come, I think bringing the son is fine.
Post # 11
It’s not about the siblings, my biggest problem is that my F*ing mother doesnt have the commong courtesy to think, hmm i’m not paying for the wedding, and it is my daughter and FSIL’s day, so why not check with them. NO! She just didn’t say anything at all!!!! She just told her friend oh yeah thats fine, no problem. However she knew it was a problem because we specified that we were sticking with only family kids.
All of the siblings are over 18 except 3, so thats 7 out of 10. I’m sorry but for them to be “entertained” is a little ridiculous. They can socialize like normal adults.