Post # 1
Hope that you are well and Happy Holidays! I am 38 and got pregnant after one time of unprotected sex with my Darling Husband. I am SHOCKED and also scared. I recently lost my job and need to interview to find a new one. It took me so long to find a new job last time that I am worried about finding a new one in time. Darling Husband has a job but not enough to support all of us so I really want to find a good place to work and build my career before the baby comes. I took some anti depressants and Xanax in my first few weeks because I was so crushed by the job loss. I think I am 5-6 weeks pregnant maybe. I am a little worried about the meds but my doctor said to try not to worry about it. I stopped the drugs as soon as I found out.
I am in a place where I am just scared in general right now. I have always wanted a baby and same for my husband but wanted to have an established job before that. I am in a circle where my friends are childless by choice with high powered careers and or still single or struggling with conception so I really value everyone’s friendship/opinion on this board since I don’t really have anyone to talk to. They doctor told me to take progesterone to support placenta growth. Has anyone ever heard of this before?
Any advice about pregnancy and career is greatly appreciated. I am absolutely shocked. I thought it would take years of trying or fertility treatments to get pregnant.
Post # 2
As I see it, this pregnancy is a blessing. At 38 you might not have a lot of time left to build a career and wait to have a baby. Also, you never know how this pregnancy may end up, its still very early and there are no guarantees. Count your blessings, enjoy this time being pregnant. You will figure out finances and the job situation eventually. You are not a teenager, you are married, you have your husband’s support. You will be fine, although it might be hard at first.
Post # 3
Congratulations! Try not to worry, things will work out. Keep networking and applying for jobs, and maybe your hubby could also keep an eye on the job market to see if there are any employment opportunities for him that might offer some additional financial security for your growing family.
Post # 4
All I can say is.. Everything happens for a reason! When I found out I was pregnant 7 months ago I was horrified. Darling Husband and I wanted kids in the near future but we weren’t trying yet. We were actually using condoms. I was scheduled for (elective) surgery the week I found out I was pregnant and that’s the only reason I took a pregnancy test when my period was 2 days late. I embarrassingly had to cancel the surgery and I actually had to fight to get my money back. At the time I was also was terrified to tell a specific friend about the pregnancy because she essentially forbade me from getting pregnant before her wedding (when I told her she was actually totally fine and happy for me though..so I stressed over nothing ). it took me a few months to get excited about this pregnancy. However now we are beyond thrilled. Last month we found out my grandma (who my mom and I are really close with) has a serious form of cancer. I think this baby is what’s helping my grandma fight and it’s serving as a wonderful distraction for my mom and I (something happy to think about and look forward to). I always wished I could have waited just two-three months later, but now I can especially understand why it happened when it did.
There will never be a perfect time to have a baby, and I understand why you are stressed about your job.. but if you and your Darling Husband wanted a baby eventually.. just embrace it 🙂 everything will work itself out. if it makes you feel better, I didn’t start showing until recently at 6.5 months so it shouldn’t impact your job search too much? (of course employers can’t discriminate either). Good luck with your pregnancy!
Post # 5
englishrosesinapril : Thats good advice. Thank you so much!
lalexa01 : Oh wow! So you got pregs by accident too. That is terrible that a friend would forbid you to get pregnant! but I am glad things worked out. That makes sense about your grandma. I am so glad that the baby is making your family feel better. Oh wow you only recently started showing? Oh wow. Were you very buff to begin with or did you keep to a specific diet? Wow that does make me feel a ton better. If I could have that kind of time to find something new I would feel a ton better.
MrsOats : Those are good points. I am nervous to tell anyone to your point because it is so early and many women have trouble. I havent even had an ultrasound yet. Yes I will just keep networking and do the best I can.