Post # 1
ETA: Yikes… just realized the poll is kind of confusing. The subject line of this post and the actual poll question are asking two different things. Sorry.
Oh man… So the planning has begun, and my venue choices are limited on the north shore where our wedding will be (ceremony has to be there because that’s where the horse is — and she’s walking me down the aisle! :). I think I’ve narrowed it down to two.
One is rather pricey and is one of those where you have to either go with their pre-arranged “packages,” or pay more for “a la carte” rates. The price doesn’t bother me so much as just the fact that it seems so overdone and commercialized and also, one of our friends had their wedding there last year. We’re kinda over it.
So the other option is this lovely little polo club we used to frequent in the summer when we lived closer to it. It’s right on the beach, and it’s pretty awesome. So I emailed their coordinator and asked for more info — and that’s where the porta potty bomb comes in. She tells me that the facilities include a kitchen, bar, clubhouse, stage, etc., but that unfortunately the land isn’t zoned for septic systems and so the “lavatories” they provide are non-flushable toilets, and if we needed additional bathroom facilities we would have to rent our own porta potties… GROSS!
I don’t know how many guests we will have, so I don’t know if we would really need to rent out nasty blue porta potties (she tells me there is a company that you can rent nice ones with large interior, mirrors, etc. from, but, still). And, I haven’t toured the club facilities yet so I don’t know how bad these “built in” ones are… but just based on the thought alone — would you be totally, completely disgusted with a non-flushing toilet if you were a guest? Or would you understand that the charm of having a beachside wedding in the “country” comes with its disadvantages?
Post # 3
When my FI’s sister got married, they had porta potties and I have to tell you the truth; I was totally grossed out. We left early because I couldn’t stand them. You know how they smell and guys drip, etc… and there was no place to wash our hands. They had sanitized wipes. Sorry…
Post # 4
EW! I am assuming that this place at least has running water/ sinks. If it doesn’t, there is NO way I will go through with it. I absolutely have to be able to wash my hands.
I am *hoping* that their version of the potty — the “built-in” ones that they have — are not quite the same as the standard ones that you rent. Cause yeah, I’m with you. That won’t do.
Post # 5
if you are going to use them i suggest having male and female only – reduces the trauma
i attended a function once and they had luxury port a pottys, like mobile bathrooms and people were talking about how nice they were, a strange topic i know but we were impressed – they were fresh smelling, clean and roomy
Post # 6
i said i would tolerate it. but only cuz when you gotta pee, you gotta pee. and there have been moments when the intolerable becomes tolerable. but i would certainly be holding my pee for as long as possible and avoiding it at all costs.
Post # 7
@littlemissmango: If you can get the really nice ones, maybe that would be okay, but I bet they are very expensive. This wedding was about 5 years ago and I am still traumatized by it.
Post # 8
I’m usually very easy going about most things…Except bathrooms. I’m really high maintenance about where I need to go. Combine that with a problem bladder that makes me go every 30 min sometimes, I think port-a-potties would totally ruin my day. Sorry 🙁
Post # 9
@eloping: Lol, well that is nice that you’ve experienced the “luxury” kind. If their existing potties are gross, maybe I will look into renting the VIP type. Haha. Oh, and I am pretty sure theirs are already male and female separated. Good call though on reducing the “trauma.” 🙂
Post # 10
I am Australian, so maybe that makes me less discerning (every music festival or rural campside either has porta loos or drop toilets) than the next lass, but I would have no problem in it. I mean, who on EARTH goes to a wedding for the toilets? You’re going to be in there for all of five minutes, suck it up.
Post # 11
I said I’d deal, but as a guest all dolled up and glitzed out and (probably) in some wicked heels, the luxury portables would be very much appreciated. I’m sure that rented loos for the day would be much cleaner than the county fair / demolition derby unisex porta-pots that I’ve encountered, but for your wedding with a sweet venue it would be worth it to look into the ‘fancy mobile lavatories.’
ETA: I agree with PPs about having a place to actually wash hands…sanitary/alcohol wipes just don’t make me feel like I’ve actually washed my hands.
Post # 12
LOL, this brings back lots and lots of memories. Even after having spent 10 years in the military, I would rather hold it then use one of those things. However, having said that, as a guest, it would not deter me from attending a wedding. I would just try to avoid the restroom.
Post # 13
I don’t like using them at the best of times (fairs, etc.), but when I’m dressed up and pretty, I would hate to try to navigate my way around in there without falling into/onto the “toilet”!
Post # 14
I don’t know about those blue porta potties that I see at a concert. Those gross me out.
Now I have been to a circus where they had rest room trailers. They weren’t too bad because it at least was big, so the smell wasn’t contained in a small area like the blue ones are.
I did a quick search and found these. Scroll down to the bottom to see the rest room trailers.
Post # 15
I’ve been to one wedding where they had fancy Portapotties. There was music inside, sinks and nice paper towels to wash your hands. Huge mirrors for putting on makeup. The toilets were more like the ones in an airplane. They flushed but with that weird blue chemical. No one had a problem with them at all. They may be quite expensive though.
Post # 16
@ttn133: Ooh, thanks for the link! Now THAT I can’t see anyone complaining about. Sounds like what you saw, @MlleFrog.
You know, something like that might be spendy, but it’s still gonna be way less than the costs of the other venue I’m considering. The polo club includes tent, chair, and table rentals, while with the other one, I’d have to fork over an additional $5k+ for all that. I’m starting to feel better about this!