Post # 1
My college roommate and I have a mutal friend. New Years Eve of this year…My college roommate, who is in a very serious relationship herself, SLEEPS with this girls boyfriend. They ALL cover it up telling me about it at dinner a few days after. My college roommate says she LITERALLY has no memory and blacked out but doesn’t know how because she swears she didn’t drink that much. The friend’s boyfriend doesn’t drink because he needs a kidney transplant. He only takes xanax in mass quality (real cute I know). Everyone that was there that night felt as if they didn’t remember anything and ALL people thought they were drugged. A few days after New Years the boyfriend contacts my college roommate saying that he’s in love with her. Doesn’t want to marry his girlfriend but wants to marry her. WTF? my college roommate says, this is NOT ok she’s not interested and doesn’t remember at all. He continues to persue her until he realizes it was just a huge mistake to her and that she’s not interested. He in the end tells her he was just confused and will eventually break up with his girlfriend when he finds a job (because he’s unemployed living off her HA). Skip to 6 weeks later he has asked his girlfriend to marry him (we assume maxing out his credit card). But continues to make odd off the wall comments to my college roommate. Now we come up on the couples engagement party. It seemed to be okay, until the end of the night when my college roommate who had had two drinks and had to be CARRIED out of the bar. The next day we immediately thought that he drugged her, and probably did the first night as well. She asked him about it during one of the extremely ODD facebook messaging session they had. He right away without even being accused says: “No I would never drug you or do that” when all she asked is if he had given her any Xanax. Clearly shady. Now for the question. Do I say something to the newly engaged friend? Pretty sure her fiance date raped her friend among the other creepy things he’s done. Or is this out of place? Will she even believe this????
This topic was modified 1 year, 9 months ago by newbie789.
Post # 2
Not sure if she’ll believe you guys but somebody should tell that poor girl she’s with a gold digging sociopath. What she decides to do with that information is up to her.
Post # 3
YES! She needs to know who she’s marrying– a guy who would drop her for another girl without thinking twice, AND who potentially drugged said girl and several other people! I don’t know if she’ll believe it, and she might be mad at you for saying something like that, but I think you need to bring this up as delicately as possible.
Post # 4
you need to proof read your post.
Post # 5
She should go to the doctor and have a blood test and see what is in her system…
Post # 6
leekissesme: It’s too late now
Post # 7
newbie789: oh, ok. That is terrible 🙁
Post # 8
That is awful for your friend. If your college roommate really did only have a little bit to drink, it does sound like he drugged and raped her.
Your friend should stay away from him, as should the rest of you. I wish she had gotten tested after the first or even the second time he drugged her, but unfortunately it is too late now and I don’t know what can be done.
Please tell his Fiance what happened. This isn’t just a case of he cheated on her. He drugged and raped another girl. This is something she needs to know. Hopefully, if you tell her as a group she will believe you.
Post # 9
newbie789: honestly, if he’s hoofing xanax that defintely explains some of his odd behaviors.
as for whether or not you should speak up about the possible drugging and definite cheating? that’s hard. at this point you’re a 3rd party, so it could lead to more drama than anything else. but if you really, really feel that this guy could be a danger to your friend, then yes, you should speak up.
but, just be prepared for the possibility that your friend refuses to believe a word you say about her new Fiance and completely flips it on you.
my only advice would be to just to really think about what you are going to say and how you are going to present the information. also, it mayyy resonate more if the info about the things her Fiance has done comes directly from the person he did them too.