Post # 1
This has been bothering me for some time now. I am without doubt a country bee. We grow a lot of our own food, FI hunts game for meat, we eat farm raised pigs, and we love to fish. We in the middle of the woods.
Since we got engaged, I have had my heart set on an elegant, forest/country theme wedding. Lately, I’ve become really bothered that it’s a becoming such a trend. The local barns where we usually have graduation parties, family reunions, etc are suddenly always booked with weddings. They aren’t even local people. They’re all from the city trying to carry out a popular theme.
I hate that my life-long style is suddenly a trend. I’m starting to worry my wedding will look dated in the future since it’s a popular trend now. :/
What do you think?
A couple plans:
Our venue, a historic inn at the summit of the mountains 🙂
Our little white church for the ceremony: (at Christmas time, of course)
Post # 3
@OnceUponATime: Have WHATEVER kind of wedding YOU want. I am having a vintage country wedding and I could care less what ANYONE thinks, because it’s MY wedding! You have to keep telling yourself that. My FI is from Alabama and we love the country. The wedding is a representation of us, who cares what anyone thinks!
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@OnceUponATime: Everyones wedding will look dated in a decade or so for one reason or another so have the wedding that you want to have and don’t worry about other peoples themes.
Post # 5
To be honest, everyone’s weddings will look dated. There will always be some aspect where people look back and say, “What were you thinking!?” Pick the wedding you want, and go with it, trend or not.
Post # 6
Many styles of weddings become trendy, fade, and then return once more. I think the most important thing is to choose a wedding that makes sense to who you are a couple.
Post # 8
Ask your mom, aunts, grandmother, cousins – most will comment that some aspect, if not most aspects, of their weddings were trendy for the times.
Post # 10
Have the wedding you want. Everyone’s weddings will look dated someday.
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
I love the country trend. EVERYTHING we do is trendy; that will make it memorable in 20 years (like our mom with the sleeves! the lace! the poufy hair!!)
Post # 12
@OnceUponATime: I live in TX and even the most “city” girls are going the “country-chic” route. It isnt my style at all, so I cannot relate to the trend frustration…but as a guest, I certainly can appreciate its popularity: they’re all semi-formal at BEST *and* the food tends to be something I actually want to eat 😡
I say carry through with what makes you happy: I think guests can sense the ones that are “authentic” 🙂
Post # 13
I think you should just do your own thing. I think more than anything, a lot of things start to look the same due/ with/ because of the “pinterest” trend! (If you know what I mean.) I think your wedding will be lovely if you do your own thing- I feel the same way about nurseries, home decor in general, PHOTOS. It kind of creates a culture of “everyone’s stuff looks the same”- but I suppose that can happen at any period in history for various reasons! I know those sites are to share ideas, I just think it is even better when people use their own.
Post # 14
@OnceUponATime: My SO & I often have date nights at bookstores and there are bookshelves STUFFED with books lining our entire livingroom AND bedroom. Obviously the book/library theme is what I’ve planned from the beginning and oh, wouldn’t you know, EVERY FREAKING BLOGGED WEDDING has books incorporated in the centerpieces now! Is that going to keep me from having a wedding that totally feels like “us”? NOPE.
Look, you’re reading tons of blogs & thinking about weddings & obsessing over pinterest. Maybe a handful of other 20-30something women at your wedding are, too. Those are the only people who are even going to realize this is a trend! Plus, people know you two and will think “Wow- this is so them” instead of thinking “Why is this so country when they’re cityfolk?” like they do at some weddings! Go with what speaks to you!
Post # 15
I read a comment on the bee once (talking about rings looking dated) that said something like, “I *like* when things look dated! When I look at my mom’s ring from the 80s, it just reminds me that she and my dad have been together for thirty years.”
I love that! I try to remind myself of that every time I think about how certain things that I *love* (my rose gold halo e-ring, my lace dress) are trendy right now.
Post # 16
It sounds like a country wedding is your style. Don’t fight it!