Post # 1
Growing up in a small church I was used to having potluck suppers on regular bases. Here is the issue potluck to me is a childhood memory and I would love to have that feeling at my wedding reception. We are however having a DJ and dancing. I am not asking for gifts and have not registered anywhere. Is it ok to word an invite like this?
“Potluck reception and dancing to follow at ********** Dessert and drinks will be provided Please RSVP by *******”
PS The Wedding is a country western style
Post # 3
I personally have an issue with potluck receptions. I understand that it is something that you grew up loving but as a guest, I think it adds added stress. Again, that is my personal opinion.
If you are going to do this, you need to make sure when the guests RSVP they tell you what they are bringing so you don’t have duplicates either.
Post # 4
How many people are invited to your reception? Is it just close family, or is it 100+ people?
Post # 6
Both of the posters above me have good questions. How are you going to make sure that you have enough food to feed everyone? What if everyone brings cheese and crackers or jello salad? How are you going to make sure that the hot food stays hot and the cold food stays cold so no one gets food poisoning? Are your guests traveling from far away? How are they going to make something for a potluck? Beyond the logistical aspects, I really wouldn’t want to attend a potluck wedding. I wouldn’t want to be making something and carting it around to a wedding.
Post # 7
I think potluck only works if you have a very small guest list. As a guest I wouldn’t be thrilled to have organize and bring food.
I think if your wedding is small and you are extremely organized it can work. if you have large guest list it going to be hard to handle. There are also quality control issues.I think better then a potluck is asking close and friends and family to get together and make a simple meal.Like pasta or something easy like that.
Post # 8
@cmbr: So many good points! If you’re going to do potluck, it needs to be organized so you don’t end up with ten macaroni salads and no meat.
Post # 9
I think it’s a bad idea. The point of the reception is that it’s an event you’re hosting to thank your guests for coming to your wedding…you can’t thank them by asking them to bring food for everyone! Whether the food was provided by a caterer or your guests is not going to change the ‘feeling’ of your wedding, but it may very well change the feelings of your guests. Maybe just incorporate some of your favorite dishes from potlucks growing up into the food – but still using a caterer?
Post # 10
@kimjmom: Really depends on your guests. I personally love potluck style parties (I love to cook/bake) as long as I don’t have to cook for 200+ people. My friend had an amazing potluck wedding in the park, and the food was delicious; however most of her family cooks. She and her immediate family cooked up all of the “main” dishes (carnitas, carne asada, chile verde, and chile rellenos), her relatives brought side dishes like rice, beans, quesadillas, etc. She set up a facebook page so that everyone could sign up and everyone else could see what other people were bringing. Her wedding was pretty large (150+) and there was plenty of food and drinks for everyone. Also, you’ll need to check with the local laws if you plan on serving alcohol. I think it’s an awesome idea if it’s done right.
Post # 11
@kimjmom: While potlucks are fun, I don’t think I would rely on this method for a wedding reception. Often it’s to hard to travel with food and this will ensure yo don’t end up with 100 bags of potato chips. Let guets enjoy the reception and not worry about which dish to make, or if it’s hot or cold enough and won’t give anyone food poisoning.
Post # 12
What about Out of Town people? Most of them will probably forget, or you’ll end up with alot of cheap bought-out-of-the-store cold stuff. Ick.
How many guests are you having?
I don’t know. I mean it’s your wedding, you can do whatever you like, but I don’t like this idea at all.
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
My church growing up did potlucks on Sunday afternoons, for holidays, and for funerals but never for weddings. If this is a common practice for weddings at your church then go for it. If not, I recommend going back to the drawing board. Why not just do a cake and punch church reception since it seems you can afford that? There is nothing that says you have to have a full meal reception at a wedding.
Post # 14
@kimjmom: there was a thread a while back that addressed the issues with potluck receptions pretty well:
Why don't people like potluck receptions?
As far as your wording goes, if they are commonplace in your area, why dont you just model your wording off other invitations in your area you have seen?
Post # 15
Is the OP ever coming back?
Post # 16
Thank you so much
My future in laws and I talked it over and it will now be a pot luck style (verity of foods) but catered