Post # 1
Since the general internet has been no help with me on this subject, I’m wondering if anyone has any suggestions for me.
I want to keep my maiden name, but you know the part of the ceremony where the officiant says “and now, I’m happy to present to you Mr and Mrs so and so!”? Well… I’m wondering how it would work if I were to keep my name.
I know the obvious suggestion would be to have them say each of our names, but it seems somewhat awkward without the Mr and Mrs part. And I don’t want to cut out the announcement entirely because I feel like it gives a nice ending to the ceremony.
So, I’m wondering if anyone has any suggestions? Whether it’s from personal experience or just something you think might work, I would appreciate any help you can give!
Post # 3
I think our officiant said “I now present to you the newlyweds!” or something like that. Are you comfortable with that instead of names?
Post # 4
I’m not taking my FH’s name either, but for sake of simplicity and so that ‘traditional’ people wouldn’t think it’s weird, we’re being announced as Mr and Mrs Grooms’s Name. Plus, we don’t really know how his family will feel about me not taking his name, we haven’t really discussed it with them, and don’t want the wedding to be the big moment when they realize I’m not….I fear even if we did discuss it before the wedding, they still might be offended if we were to be announced with separate names. Go with your gut….
Post # 5
Why don’t you just keep it announced as Mr & Mrs so and so… I am sure nobody will call you out on the legal name you are going to use.. and I do think it adds a nice touch to the end.. Unless your reasons for keeping your name have to do with the feeling that using a man’s surname is offensive or something..
If I were a guest, I admit that it would strike me as weird for a moment if the couple was announced as Mr. A and Mrs. B..but I would not dwell on it.
Post # 6
Our officiant said some thing like, “I now present you <mary> and <john> for the first time as a married couple.” I think anything like, “the newlyweds” or your first names (which is what the DJ said announcing our first dance) works.
Post # 7
I now present husband and wife?
I now present the new Mr. and Mrs.?
I now present the new couple?
I personally prefer “I now present the newlyweds.” as Mrs. Spring suggested.
Post # 8
In the same boat. We’re thinking about having our couple say “the world’s newest married couple.” Don’t know why, but I think it’s cute.
Post # 9
I like fizicsgirl’s suggestion to use your first names and present you as a married couple.
Post # 10
I think it’s a good idea to combine it and use your first names, if you want to be announced:
“I now present to you the newlyweds, Name & Name!”
Post # 11
what about “I now present to you Mr & Mrs “hisname” and “yourname””?!
Post # 12
Ours said, “I now present to you first name and firstname. Together as one!”
I liked it 🙂
Post # 13
Our officiant did the same thing gilneas mentioned above.
“I now present to you the newlyweds, HisName & HerName!”
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2010 - The Chesapeake Bay Beach Club
I was wondering this same thing, because I just went to a wedding where the couple was announced as “I present to you: Mr. HisLast and Mrs. HerLast!”, and it was a little awkward sounding. I really like the way fizicsGirl and others have suggested: “I now present to you for the first time as a married couple: hisfirst and herfirst!”
Post # 15
I asked the preacher to be dramatic about it. “Now presenting as for the first time as a married couple Ms. Jane Smith and Mr. John Doe”
Post # 16
“and now, I’m happy to present to you Mr Jones and Ms Smith, Husband and Wife!”
It’s an introduction — it serves a purpose: letting the guests know how the new couple will style themselves. Why should your guests be left wondering how to address you in the future, just because you choose to keep your own name? Besides, when the officiant announces it publicly that way, HE gets to be the object of wrath for whatever anti-feminist neo-relative is going to bust a gasket, and you aren’t left worrying about how to break it to hubby’s inlaws. You’ll also have a better chance that any cheques you are given have the right payee on them.