(Closed) Couple charged for missing a wedding last minute.

posted 4 years ago in Money
Post # 2
212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Although I personally would not do it, I can understand why the Briding groom were upset and snet her the bill. She could have at least called them and left a voicemail and explain to them what happened, the couple would’ve probably felt better about them missing out the wedding if they knew that the woman did not have a babysitter.

Post # 3
115 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - The Waterfall

I can understand why this was done, but I would be mad to receive this ifsomething happened out of my control causing me to miss it. The guest could have called to explain, maybe she wouldn’t have received the bill? 

Post # 4
3564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013


People need to realize that unfortunately sometimes things come up that you can’t control. 

To have the gall to do this simply blows my mind. 

Post # 5
4943 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Both parties are at fault in my opinion – the guest should have at least called/texted/emailed the bride and explained that she wouldn’t be able to make it, but the bride was in the wrong for sending a bill to them. That’s so tacky! Unfortunately things do happen beyond someone’s control. However the guest still should have left a message explaining. But I don’t think they guest should pay.

Post # 6
12287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Of course they have no right to bill this person. It’s a party, not a legal contract. But the woman, by not even having the common decency to contact the couple, risked more than just money. She lost a relationship. 

For all she knows they would have made an exception for the child or been able to recommend a sitter. Even if that was not possible, notifying the host that there was or is an emergency is the right and considerate thing to do. That would be just as true for a private dinner in someone’s home as a wedding. 

The no show guest owes a huge apology, but the couple should have taken the high road. What they did was totally inappropriate and only makes them look bad. 

Post # 7
257 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Am I the only one who’s first reaction was that they found a really affordable caterer? By the time I tack on 22% service charge and sales tax, I would have been thrilled to only be paying $40 a plate! 

Seriously, I can sympathize with the urge to bill someone, but that is so ridiculous. And I really laughed when they indicated that there was no card sent… like if you had sent a gift right away, we would forgive you for no showing right? lol, wild.

Post # 8
1703 posts
Bumble bee

I would assume that the couple that bailed still sent a gift – so who cares if they didn’t eat their herb crusted whatever?!? If they bailed and didn’t send a gift, they are assholes.

Post # 9
1936 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Does this woman have NO ONE in her life who can watch her kid when something comes up? That’s the sad part, IMO. Stuff happens. But to not have a BABYSITTER? I expeted a car accident or something. I gotta wonder how flaky these parents are. I’ve seen the “I can’t find a babysitter” excuse used sooo many times I can’t wait to use it myself. It’s like a get out of jail free card if you don’t want to do something you’ve committed to. 

I think it’s just sad this couple had no one they could ask to watch their child. Especially since they had a good part of the monrming while getting ready to find one.

I’d probably bill them for that excuse, TBH. Like I said, I was expecting a car accident, sick parent, not sorry no one wants to watch Joey.

Post # 10
6107 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

Here’s the thing, they couldn’t make it because the couple decided it was a “no kids allowed” wedding and their babysitter backed out that day. They had no choice because they weren’t even allowed to bring their kids even if they wanted to.

As for why they didn’t call…I’m sure they didn’t want to bother the bride or the groom on their actual wedding day to explain that they can’t come because they don’t have a babysitter. It’s not some dinner party or BBQ, they probably thought the bride and groom were busy getting ready and would want to, or weren’t even able to, take their call. The guests should have called/texted after the wedding to apologize for not making it but I understand not calling that day.

I had people who RSVP’d to my wedding and didn’t come or call/text/write/send-carrier-pigeon and I wouldn’t have dared to send them a bill. Shit happens.

Post # 11
896 posts
Busy bee

UMMM?!  How unbelievably tacky it is to send a bill to one of your guests no matter what the reason. I cannot believe people would side with the bride and groom. I would be disgusted if it were me recieving the bill, and I could never do that to one of my guests. 

Post # 12
342 posts
Helper bee

This is ridiculous. While you’re at it, why don’t you tack on the cost of alcohol, the invitation, the favors, 1/4 of the centerpiece. I mean, c’mon.

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Post # 14
385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

That is ridiculous. The first thing you should learn to accept while planning your wedding is that you’re going to LOSE money. Yeah, the guests should have called or something, but it’s 100x more tacky to try and charge them for their dinner.

Post # 15
8919 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

mrspereira:  “I expeted a car accident or something. I gotta wonder how flaky these parents are. I’ve seen the “I can’t find a babysitter” excuse used sooo many times I can’t wait to use it myself. It’s like a get out of jail free card if you don’t want to do something you’ve committed to.” — That’s what you think?

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