Post # 1
Bees, what would you do in this situation:
I recently attended a co-worker’s wedding. Bought a gift off their registry online and had it sent directly to their registry address (just wanted to explain that I don’t know their address). A few days ago, I noticed on my credit card statement that I had received a complete refund for it, and the timing is a few days after my co-worker returned from his honeymoon. My first thought was the store maybe accidentally charged my card twice and refunded me for one of them or something, so I checked my recent transactions, but I only see the one charge and one refund.
Now I’m thinking the couple returned my gift, but instead of crediting the refund to them, the store credited it to me instead? If that is the case, then I essentially got them no gift and that is embarrassing to me. What would you do in this situation? Would you ask them if they did return the gift, and if so then ask for their address to send another gift? Or I could just leave a card with some cash on my co-worker’s desk?
Post # 2
I would say nothing I think. Kind of awkward. “Hey did you return my gift? Do you want the money”. I would just hope if you got a refund, they got a gift card accidentally. Don’t be embarrassed. You got them a gift. They know that. Whatever happened, I’d just leave it personally.
Post # 3
camenae : I’d call the store and find out what happened. If they say that it was returned and the money went to you I’d probably first bitch out the store a bit (seriously how hard is it to give them a gift card?) But then I’d just take the money, put it all on a VISA gift card (so they can spend it wherever) or on a gift card to the specific store and give it to her when you see her/drop it on her desk.
Post # 4
I feel like the package may have never made it to them… Did you get a confirmation of delivery? Because it sounds like it wasn’t delivered due to them being on holiday and was returned to the company.
Post # 5
camenae : I think I thought would embarrass the couple to confront the co-worker.
Have you tried calling the store? They might have a solution. All major stores will have a policy. And if not perhaps there’s a work around of having the store issue a e-gift card for the amount with an explaintion that their system miscredited the return so it’s appearing as a gift card.
Post # 6
You already got them a gift, I wouldn’t be embarrassed. They are probably embarrassed themselves (if they knew the credit went back to you). I wouldnt worry about it
Post # 7
I think it’s more likely that they never received the gift.
Post # 8
So I had this happen with one of my wedding gifts. My long distance grandmother purchased a blender from QVC and had it mailed to us, but we already had a blender and tried to return the gift. Despite marking that it was a gift on the return form, QVC credited the return to my grandmother. We called QVC customer service but they said someone in there warehouse made a mistake and it wasn’t their problem anymore. I felt awkward about the whole scenario because I didn’t want to hurt my grandmothers feelings, but she never mentioned anything so neither did we. We just moved on. You could call the company and ask about it, since you purchased the gift and had the refund maybe you could see if it was ever even delivered or what the scenario was.
Post # 9
I don’t think it’s all that awakward to just ask about it. People return gifts all the time and especially if it was from their registry it’s nothing to take personally. I know sometimes things don’t get checked off at the store and then there are duplicates. I would just let the coworker know what you noticed, keep it lighthearted and not like you’re questioning why they would have returned it, and focus on wanting to make sure that you want to complete your intention to get them a gift. I agree with a PP that perhaps they never even got it, because it seems odd also that they’d take it to the store with a receipt and then knowingly not have been refunded the cost of the item.
Post # 10
camenae : I would explain what happened to the coworker because I would hate for them to think I attended the wedding without a gift… I would then give them a voucher to the store for the same amount as your gift was. The store completely stuffed up when they handled the return. It should have been put as a store credit not a refund. I wonder how many other guests this happened to??
I also never really thought that people returned stuff off a registry… So I think I got you champagne flutes when instead I got them a dress.. a handbag or something else that isn’t considered a typical wedding gift!! 😉 this technically could happen if thecbride and groom decided to trade it all in for a huge lump sum and buy something different without raising eyebrows!!
Post # 11
That is pretty hilarious.
They returned a gift you bought off their registry?
I’d be thrilled to have my money back and go about my day. I’d love to see if they bring it up.
Edit: Although I would call the store, just to check that it was in fact returned.
Post # 12
beesaredyingatanalarmingrate : I returned things from our registry: plates that arrived broken, a juicer that I realized I had no place to store (boo, I really was excited for that one lol), a salad bowl that wouldn’t fit in our cupboards (it was massive! I did not realize just how big it was..)
It happens… though in our case we were always able to get store credit and just buy something else from our registry.
Post # 13
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
I would call the store and ask what happened. if they never recieved it then give a new gift. If they returned it give a gift card for the amount.
Post # 14
I would guess they actually never got it–that’s what happened to me with a shower gift I ordered off of Kohl’s registry a few years ago. I ordered it, paid for it, had a confirmation…then, it turns out it was out of stock and so they never shipped anything and refunded my money. The worst part was, they never sent me any kind of notification…no email, no call, nothing. I didn’t even notice that I had been refunded the money, and we wouldn’t have known if the gift weren’t for my SIL, and DH asked her if she got it. Nope, she had no clue what he was talking about.
Post # 15
I would do nothing. If they didn’t want what they put on their registry then that’s their problem.