Couple possibly separating?

posted 2 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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532 posts
Busy bee

I would send the invite as is. You wouldn’t want to accelerate their breakup with some unintended misunderstanding and put yourself in the drama. Find out later from the guy if he’s still bringing someone.

Post # 3
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555 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Your wedding isn’t until november. Your invites don’t need to go out until September. 8 weeks is standard. Hold off until you know more. Or just wait on theirs. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

meliboo :  we had this with Brother-In-Law. He moved out for a month and then moved back in when we were sending the invites out. We were pretty certain that it wasn’t going to be long before they broke up, we just didn’t know when…

So we put the invite in the mail with her name on it. She moved out that day for good. Rubbish timing but Brother-In-Law understood. When you send out the invites just approach and him see if the situation has changed any and if it has that you mean no offence.

Post # 5
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3309 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

For now keep her on the list.

Post # 6
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681 posts
Busy bee

I would keep her. We are going through something similar with one of FI’s groomsmen. Since we don’t know what is happening, we addressed it to both of them to be safe.

Post # 7
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Honey bee

They may end up back together by the time invites really need to go out.  If they are still in a relationship at that time (even if they are just doing the temporary break thing or moving out but still consider themselves in a relationship while they sort things) then keep her on.  If not, then just him.  But this really doesn’t need to be sorted out for another 6 weeks at least unless you are having your envelopes professionally addressed and have to get the calligrapher your address list now.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

I’d keep her name for now. You just never know with these kinds of things…

One of my friends told me last November that her and her husband were divorcing. They are currently still together and have a baby on the way. Shrug!

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper

If they are still married, her name goes on the invitation. Whether or not she attends is for them to work out. If he’s your friend, most likely she wouldn’t. 

I agree that if the wedding is really in November it is too early to be mailing your invitations anyway. 

Post # 10
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44 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Technically, since they are still legally married, it should be addressed to both of them. Also, I sent mine out early (we are having a destination wedding though)

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

meliboo :  honestly, i’d just ask your calligrapher to make two envelopes – one with both their names, and one with just his. a calligraphied envelope is usually $3-4…seems like a very small price to pay to have the flexibility in which to send out in a few months.

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