Post # 1
I am a first time bridesmaid and am trying to plan a couple shower for my friend who got engaged in January of 2010 and will be getting married in September 2010…which doesnt give us alot of time to plan showers/engagement party. Because of the time restraint we decided to nix the engagement party which the bride was completely ok about. So we’ve decided to do a couples shower. The problem now is the brides family is extremely large…her mother has 14 brothers and sisters so the shower is more than likely going to be 200 guests plus some. That being said we as bridesmaids decided that opening gifts would obvioulsy take entirely too long. The bride’s aunt is find with that idea however she feels as though without the gift opening that the shower turns into a party and its not really about the couple. I guess what i’m wondering is does anyone have any ideas as to something we can still do to bring the spotlight to the couple without the gift opening. There were some ideas given such as asking people not to wrap there gifts and just have them on display…which i’m not exactly crazy about ….or giving out raffle tickets as people walk in and every 30 minutes we pull a number and whose ever number we call recieves a small prize and the bride and groom open that persons gift……i’m new to this so i’m not sure what the proper etiquette is. obviously this is an abnormal situation but any input anyone could give me would be greatly appreciated.
Post # 3
I think with 200 people, it’s pretty much a party anyways! Is there a way to trim the guest list? 200 people seems unmanageable…whereas 50 is a LOT but still doable. Could there be a few showers? Friends at one, family at another, etc?
Post # 4
That number of people is pretty much non-negotiable…..like I said, this is a large family and there used to having this number of people at their functions. I’m not concerned with managing that number of people at all. I’m just looking for some ideas to do that will put the spot light on the couple without having them have to sit in front of everyone and opening up that number of presents. There are other issues as well that puts a damper on the brides family throwing her any family showers. This will probably be the only one she gets so I just want it to be special for her.
Post # 5
Well, seeing as how 200 people at a shower is bigger than my whole wedding was, besides them obvoiusly being the bride and groom, it’s going to be tough to keep the foucs on them for the most part. With that many people, the guests will inevitably do their own thing. Evne at my shower (30 people), there were guests in the kitchen not even paying attnetion when i opened their gifts and I had to shout over my thanks.
Even if the family is used to having large numbers of people at their functions, what does the bride think is feasible? Not to mention…costs of feeding this many people could be astronomical and really tough to do!
Post # 6
Is the bride sure all 200 people will be able to attend the wedding?
I am not sure how else to “feature” the bride and groom. Maybe have a head table that they can sit at?
Post # 7
Have you ever heard of a no-wrap shower? People bring their gifts with just a bow or a ribbon (make sure their cards are secure to their gifts) and you display them on a table for allthe guests to check out. This way, the bride and groom don’t have to open gifts all night long, but it still has a bit of a shower feel to it b/c gifts are on display for all of the guests to check out.
Post # 8
I would suggest gift BINGO only to keep people’s attention on the gift opening, but if the family is that large and used to this large of functions, then opening gifts for a few hours might not seem that odd to them.
What about using the ideas I see as alternatives to receiving lines or like a receiving line? Like having the couple serve the buffet, the cake & ice cream? Or have the couple seated, and have the guests bring the gifts to the couple instead of simply placing them on a table. That way the couple sees each guest and can give a small thank you when the gift is given.
Have you talked to the mother? What are her suggestions? Or the bride? What is she expecting? Maybe there is something she definitely wants or definitely does not. I would ask some of the family what they have done before.
Maybe just have the women view the gift opening and have another activity for the men?
My shower is going to be about 60-80 women strong and if they all had dates (ie. couples shower), that could be between 120 and 160 people. You have to remember that each couple will bring a gift, so you are looking at opening 100 gifts. That’s a little less scary than 200 individual gifts.