Couple verbally attacked for budget ring

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

becks90 :  Sounds like a certain someone doesn’t have a job anymore.

Engagement rings are a non-essential luxury. Whatever way you want to go about them–or do without altogether!–is the right way.

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

Hahaha Some people are just ignorant. Who is she trying to impress? 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I read that and I thought it a terrible shame that we are so materialistic. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

Sounds like the shop assistant is an asshole. What a customer wants to purchase is no one else’s business.

Post # 6
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Honey bee

 I agree with the sentiment of not needing expensive jewelry to show love,  but fail to understand why this is news.  The clerk didn’t attack them.  It was an ignorant comment made by a superficial woman who lacks professionalism and customer service skills.  Likewise their response wasn’t all that original or earth shattering.   It’s hardly newsworthy that ignorant people say stupid stuff.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: The Retreat at Bradley\'s Pond

 Yeah, the assistant was totally in the wrong for that. 

But I see both sides… it is a luxury item and a simple metal band is enough to show the world “I’m taken” so in a sense it shouldn’t totally matter. And as long as the wearer is happy then it’s good right?

But here’s my other concern… the people I’ve seen in town who spent less, got another stone, etc…end up the ones divorced, etc. So what is the correlation? I like to see a friend get a decent ring because it shows the seriousness of the guy. The guy isn’t one to flake out… if he committed to saving, doing without, etc for months or a year to financially prepare…or “invest” then he’s not going to dip quickly. He’ll do the same for your marriage I believe.

If a guy isn’t dropping for a “rock” that’s fine by me… but is he mature and making good financial decisions for the future family. Maybe he’d rather put that $3k toward her downpayment on a new car or a house. If so, good for you! 

I guess for me it’s not about the ring- but more about what the ring shares about where you’re at in the relationship. 

Regardless, I think the girl picked out a really pretty set and it looks like an actual 2 band set. So good for her. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

It’s nonsense. No one actually needs a ring to be engaged or married, much less an expensive ring. My parents were engaged without a ring and married with simple gold bands. My dad rarely wears his ring due to his job, it lives on their dresser and only gets worn when they go out socially. They’ve been married for 37 years. Luckily for my sister and me, they didn’t realize it’s tacky not to have spent thousands in order to marry! 🙂  

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Absolutly a rude comment and I wouldn’t be surprised if the sales associate lost her job but I would hardly call it being verbally attacked. It was rude and unnecessary to say but plenty of women here have gotten rude comments on thier rings of all sizes and stones. Best to just roll your eyes and move on.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

tallahasseelassie :  I’m sorry, is this 1927? Why must the man be the only one who shows he is serious and committed? And how does spending a certain amount on a ring portray those qualities anyway?

WE bought my ring at an antique store for $350 on sale. I wanted good quality but was not interested in spending much. I dont think we’ll be getting divorced for any reason and certainly not because we chose not to spend much on our rings. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

tallahasseelassie :  So only men who earn a lot of money are serious about their loves for their girlfriends/wife/partners? That might not be exactly what you said, but it certainly sounds like it. If he doesn’t spend a lot on the ring, he still has to have the finances for another hefty investment like a car loan? No. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I hardly think they were verbally attacked, sure, they got a rude sales person however I had much much worse said to me when I was ring shopping and just shrugged it off rather than running to the media.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Painswick Church and the Falcon Hotel

What an idiot! It up to them my only concern with that would be durability 

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

 I doubt that the sales girl’s SO has saved 30k and “has just started.” Sounds like she just made something up to be snarky nd said all of that just to make her feel bad. Yuck!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: The Retreat at Bradley\'s Pond

spearmint :  i should clarify, as Ive had  gay and transgendered friends get married…its not always the guy. But even in those instances someone did the proposing. Like I said I have no issue with spending less…you got an antique because it’s what you wanted and its special to you.

And maybe its local to me…Ive just seen people potentially make brash decisions about getting married. They throw an inexpensive ring on it in hopes of fixing a problem. Its not one size fits all by any means…but it does happen.

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