- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
My fiance is the cook in our couple so a lot of the traditional stuff on the registry is stuff that he will be using more than I will. For this reason my Maid/Matron of Honor has suggested that she throw us a “couples shower” instead of a bridal shower. I like this idea and like involving him in it but I have no idea how we should handle the guestlist.
Do we invite the significant others of our friends that are coupled? I have some girlfriends that are married or live with their boyfriends. Their SOs are obvioulsy invited to the wedding but then would they also be invited to the shower? If I invite some as couples do I have to invite all as couples? I can think of at least 2 couples that I would like to definitely invite both him and her to the shower since I consider both friends, but most of my girlfriends I just want to invite her and not her SO since I’m not close with the SO.
Also, my fiance has some family friends he would like to invite (friends of his mom’s that are like aunts to him). Do we invite thier husbands too?
My family lives in another state and an aunt of mine is throwing me a bridal shower back where my family lives so Im not inviting any family or family friends to the couples shower – for the couples shower we are thinking of our closest local friends and my fiance’s local family friends. My Maid/Matron of Honor has said to limit the guest list to 35 which is not a problem – we had an engagement party with around this number of people in attendance and for that we did invite SO’s- but I just don’t know if we should invite all the SO’s that were at the engagement party to the couples shower. Part of me thinks the shower should be smaller and more intimate with just those we are friends with and not their SOs. But I don’t want to offend anyone if they show up and see that there are a few people that we’re invited as couples and they were not.
Thanks in advance for your input!