Post # 1
My Maid/Matron of Honor will be throwing a shower for me or us, depending on which type we choose. I told her that I thought I was mor of a couples shower type, but now am having second thoughts. What do you do at a couples shower – or better yet- what do the guys do? How is it different from a normal party? Who do you invite?
Sorry for all the Qs but my 1st wedding, I had a very girly bridal shower at a “ladies who lunch” type place (not my style, very MOH’s style) and I’ve never attended a couples shower.
Post # 3
All the couples showers I’ve attended run very much like a regular shower except without the games. Or, if there are games, it’s tailored to be less girly. Usually it evokes much patience from the men present, as they aren’t used to sitting around watching people open presents!
When you think of what for your shower, what thoughts come to mind?
Post # 4
We’re having a couples shower! I wanted Fi to be a part of everything and we have tons of friends and family so that’s why we decided to do it that way too. Because we’re having a Destination Wedding, not everyone we invited will get to go to Aruba so having a co-ed shower made sense too, so they can at least be a part of something!
Post # 5
I threw my sister and her Fi a couples shower in August, and it was so fun! We did a “date night” theme, so guests were encouraged to bring the couple gifts they could use on date nights after they were married. They got gift certificates to restaurants and the movies, board games, a gift card for cooking classes, some camping gear, and some dvds along with more traditional shower gifts.
Instead of traditional shower games, we played the Newlywed Game, which was a huge hit! We had my parents, my sister and Future Brother-In-Law, and an older couple (family friends) participate. We also played a “get to know the couple” game and gave out gender neutral prizes for people who answered the most questions right.
Most of the party was drinking and eating (my dad barbequed). It was pretty casual, but super fun. I didn’t want to bore all the guys by spending a lot of time opening presents, so instead we asked everyone to come with the presents unwrapped or wrapped in cellophane. Not opening presents meant we had more time for drinking and playing games!
Guests were family friends, relatives, and my sis and FBIL’s friends. Instead of just inviting the women in the couple, we invited the whole family, so we had a bunch of kids running around, too. Our party, at least, was more like a regular, Sunday afternoon barbeque, only more structured and with presents. 🙂
Post # 6
@ Mrs Spring – That is just how I picture our shower! Like an afternoon BBQ with a little structure (may seem like a lot to guys) and presents. Thank you for sharing!
I would like to invite all friends and family who will be here. Some won’t be, like Future Father-In-Law and his wife (live in Maine) and some of my friends that live out of state. I’m having trouble picturing my Dad sitting through any games or gift opening, but I can put him in charge of photography and he’ll love that.
Post # 7
I mentioned a couples shower to my Darling Husband and he said he would never ever go for it, haha. So we just had my regular one! We had a lingerie shower for a friend and that was fun =].
Post # 8
Eee Gads! My Fiance just reminded me that we have been to a couples shower and it was awful! It was like they wanted to do a girly shower but invited the guys, too. There was way too much time spent with everyone crammed into the living room playing games and opening presents and I think the guys were ready to poke their own eyes out. It lasted like two hours before we went out to the backyard for food & drink. Waaay too stuffy for me.
Post # 9
For my shower, my sister (MOH) planned the best of both worlds. My shower started at 2:00 PM with the women arriving and entering a cocktail reception inside and the men heading to the pool and bar outside. Inside, the women proceeded with the traditional bridal shower activities – the game, opening the gifts, eating cake – while the men were outside drinking, having snacks and relaxing. Then around 5:00 PM once the traditional shower activities were over, the women all went outside to join their men for a fun evening of more food, more drinks and dancing. It was a great blend of a traditional shower and a couples shower. Couples were able to spend a nice evening together and the men weren’t bored with any girly shower stuff.
Go for the couples shower!