- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
Hi all! My Maid/Matron of Honor is planning our couple’s shower, and she made arrangements with one of my fiance’s and my favorite brewery for a group of 40 (I know its a lot, but its hard to get much smaller with a couple’s shower and 6 attendants on each side). I am finalizing the guest list for her, and I’m at 46 people, including me and my fiance. I’m reviewing the list over and over again, and I can’t figure out who to cut. Do you think its OK to invite 46, assuming that several people won’t come? Or should I cut a few people to keep the invite list at 40?
There are five people who I could potentially cut, but its a weird situation. The five people are three ladies I used to work with a few years back, and two of them are married, so their husbands as well. The thing is, one of them (B) lives about 7 hours away, and her husband is a jerk (not sure she would make the drive anyway, but she might). Another one (L) lives right by the brewery, and her husband is an even bigger jerk. The third lady (W) was pretty unkind to me when my fiance and I started dating, and we haven’t really spoken that much since then (over 2 years ago). B, L, and W are all friends, and we all used to be fairly close when we worked together. I have kept in touch loosely with B and L, and I was invited to their bridal/baby showers in the last couple years. I really don’t like their husbands, and they have made some of my other friends uncomfortable as well. But, I can’t just invite B and L without their husbands to a couple’s shower, right? And, it doesn’t seem like I can invite B and L without W. What to do? I’m leaning towards cutting all of them, but they are alll going to be invited to the wedding – is it awkward to invite them to the wedding but not the shower?
I know that was long – thanks for reading if you made it this far! 🙂