(Closed) Couples who don’t actually make the donation…

posted 8 years ago in Favors
Post # 3
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Wow that’s so rude!  I understand not doing favors (we didn’t and no one cared) but lying about donating to a charity?  What’s the point other than stroking your own ego?

Post # 4
14494 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

OMG, that’s aweful, just plain wrong.  I have never experienced it, but I would not think as much of the person if they did that.  Kind of shows where their morals are.

Post # 5
1020 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Did they actually TELL you they didn’t donate and/or didn’t PLAN to donate? You didn’t say that in the post, you just said that both of you were in those weddings..

Post # 6
3601 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

People actually do that? I think that calls for the “t” word.



Post # 8
660 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Wow! That is NOT cool. Definitely better to just skip on favors altogether and not lie about donating to a non-profit. I have to admit though… I did laugh because this post reminded me of a Seinfeld episode which they re-ran about 2 nights ago where George tells people that he donated money to the “Human Fund” on their behalf and no such organization exists.

Post # 9
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Fiance and I were joking that instead of Christmas presents for his brother and SIL, we should make the donation

one year instead of gifts for christmas we bought charity items via worldvision – my mother got a photo of a toilet in PNG with local villages hanging around it and my siblings famlies got photos of pigs and goats somewhere in africa  🙂


Post # 10
743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I second blondeeebuckeye‘s question – how do you know for sure?  We are going to do the donation in lieu of favors, but we are just going to give White Knot one check (instead of 100 checks for each of our guests).  So even though the donation will be made “in their name” it will actually be under “Guests of Rock HUggers” rather than “Mr. and Mrs. X”


But, yeah, that is tacky if they intentionally lied about making a donation. And I think you should totally make a donation instead of giving them xmas presents!  That would be karmic!

Post # 12
1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

wow thats cold. Brrr.

I wouldn’t think highly of someone who blantantly lied about donating to charity in lieu of favours – if you’re going to do that, why not just, oh I don’t know, NOT HAVE FAVOURS?

Novel idea, that. Instead of being lying, fradulent cheapstakes. WOW what a concept. 😉

Post # 13
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I really like your Christmas present idea. I mean, maybe it would make the point and they’d go back and make those donations? Wishful thinking, I know.

And yeah. Tacky.

Post # 15
711 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@UpstateCait: That is crazy. Like, seriously, insane. I can’t believe they did not see anything wrong with it!!!

I went to a wedding once where they did the donation thing, and afterwards the bride said “It’s a great idea because no one knows how much you actually donate.” Then she told me they donated 25$ – and they had about 200 guests. At least it’s something, but I still feel like it is misleading….

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