Post # 1
looking for bees who got married at the court house and then had their big wedding. Why did you decide to get legally married before your actual wedding? Did you feel different/ did your wedding day seem less exciting? That’s what I’m most nervous about
Post # 2
- Wedding: May 2020 - Clarksville, VA
hayleyshaye : I haven’t done this, but I have a friend who did. In her case, they had a courthouse wedding because she was pregnant. They chose a date on a Thursday because the same date the following year would be a Saturday (leap year). It was still wonderful and exciting because she and her husband still got to celebrate with all the people they cared about.
Post # 3
I had some friends do this because their offiant was a freind and not liscensed. They love having extra days to celebrate! They didn’t tell their families because they thought it would ruffle feathers but they have no regrets!
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2019 - City, State
I haven’t done this, but I was thinking about it. I feel like I will be mad if I do it. I sat down and thought about what I really want in a wedding, and I am trying to be realistic about what I even feel like doing — as far as the work and stress. When I was younger, it would have been a no brainer to just have a wedding. Now, I’m like, Eloping ain’t so bad. But my mom is all NOOO!!!!
She’s probably right because, as I said, I know I’ll be mad. And I think I’ll feel like “what is the point” of a wedding later. There is none if you ask me. When I was younger, I had a bunch of friends because I am in a sorority, but as the years ticked by, my sorors got married, had kids, we grew apart because I swear I was the LAST single one of us. So I have a very quiet life without any friends, really. Same thing happened to my fiance with his friendships.
So I think i won’t be happy with an elopement, but a “micro” wedding might be in order. The problem I run across is finding vendors who will charge something reasonable for about 20 to 25 people. I do not want to do any of the work. I want an all inclusive, but most of those start at 50 pp in my area.
So that’s my issue with it. Hope that helps, even though I haven’t actually done anything yet.