(Closed) Court house wedding vs. the “Real Deal”

posted 12 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We are doing a courthouse wedding because of our Visa situation but we are planning a bigger celebration later. We’ll have our close family with us, total 10 people, wear a suit and my dress, hire a photographer, DIY bouquet and bouts in the beautiful Santa Barbara courthouse and then have a fancy dinner. I feel like our wedding is going to be real since both of us are not religious. Courthouse weddings don’t have to be tacky, Miss Moonbeam, Miss Pudding and Mrs MaryJane did the small intimate weddings and they were gorgeous.

If you feel like you are not getting what you always wanted then maybe it’s not the way to do it but there is a way to make it budget friendly if you need to.

Post # 18
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44 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I was feeling the same way a few days ago!!!! Every girl envisions her perfect wedding from the time they find out what a wedding is! I’m not super girly but i’ve always wanted to feel like a beautiful princess on my wedding day!

Buuuuut…. money is tight(as it seems to be with everyone) and spending all this money on things that will be worn once used once and trown away seems ridiculous to me! And we’ve been together for a longtime so waiting even longer to plan something extravagant and expensive seems pointless!

I’m going to find a pretty white party dress and  (TRY) to make my veil, get some beautiful flowers and have the ceremony at the Courthouse. It will be just be Me my Fiance and our Son my Dad and my Fiances Mom and my best friend and his. And hopefully our grandparents.

Then a nice lunch and a Celebration Reception that night with bands and a dj, finger foods, drinks and dancing!

When people start to focus on all the unneeded extras they forget the reason for getting married really is!!It’s not at all what i thought my wedding would be like but I’m marrying My Fiance not a dress or a church or some expensive reception hall or a huge five course meal. So as long as we’re together with our son and everyone is happy and having fun thats all that really matters!

Post # 19
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749 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Congratulations MissyE! Don’t forget you can also find cheap veils on ebay and etsy. I’m sure you’re far more crafty than I am, but anything to do with scissors turns out really badly for me :-). We eloped with four dear friends and it was the best day of my life.

Post # 20
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415 posts
Helper bee

*Hug* You don’t have to do something that makes you wanna cry! Why not have a friend(Universal Church or whatever) marry you and then have your very closest out to dinner?

Jus Sayin. You have alternatives. Cheer Up!

Post # 22
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72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Sorry I’m late but I wanted to let you in on what we’re doing because I’ve done the big wedding the first time around. What a mess. Won’t do it again.

Fiance wants to do courthouse wedding but I really, really want good photos of us and the parents but don’t want tons of people and paying for a big “thing.”  We decided to get married at a park we go to a lot with just our parents there.  I’m wearing a wedding dress, he a nice shirt and pants, we have a notary and a photographer and that’s it.  It’s about us, no one else, and if this is what we want and can afford this is what we’re doing.

Surprisingly my friends still want to throw me a shower even though there’s no wedding or reception. I have been blessed to have friends that want my whole experience to still be traditional wedding-like, even if all they get is some photos 🙂

Do what you want and can afford. The whole point is to get married, not have everyone there and put on a show.  It works for some people, just not others.

Post # 23
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44 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Thanks Cheerful!!! I’m actuallly going to Try(like i said lol) to make the veil out of my mom’s wedding dress!!! (i posted about it in Asseccories actually. )Eeek! : )

 

Post # 24
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Wannabee

OMG, you described my feelings exactly. My boyfriend recently brought up the idea of marriage and as soon as I heard him say Justice of the Peace, I felt my eyes water up and a ball in my tummy. And not the “good butterflies” ball but the “Dream Wedding Access Denied” ball. I knew this was just a conversation and not a actual planning but it still felt… “ehhhh?”.

Instantly, I was “something something” about the thought of doing it at the Justice of Peace while simutaenously feeling quite crappy that I would be so worried about where a wedding would take place. It’s like you love this person, and would do anything to be with them, but at the same time, you want your wedding day to be perfect. When I tried to explain it to him about how most girls grow up with all sorts of ideas for their wedding, I’m sure the last thing (if its even on the list at all) is to get married by some stranger at a courthouse where people come to pay their speeding tickets. I mean, you think about your family being there and sharing the moment, the pictures that you’ll take that will be a beautiful reminder forever and such.

No offense to anyone who has had a Justice of the Peace wedding, but for me personally, it kinda feels like a drive-thru 5 minute wedding in vegas done by Elvis, and thats probably more romantic than the Justice of peace. Its not about the ammount of cash spent. It doesn’t have to be some grand church with doves releasing, a mermaid and unicorn ice sculpture that serves Dom Perignon and some overly decorative Kate Middleton dress.

I mean, I know alot of people who have nice backyards, and tons of friends who wouldn’t mind cooking as we always have great get togethers and the foods is always delicious, hell my sister is a graphic designer so decorations is her thing, she’d gladly help if I bribe her with strawberry shortcake… erm back to the point… No one is asking for the royal wedding of the century, but us girls would just love to make it special and memorable.

He jokingly said he would be wearing his best Nikes and a white T. Luckilly for him I can take a joke…with my hands around his neck…playfully lol XD

I really hope you got your dream wedding, as well as any other ladies up here planning their big day.

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