(Closed) Courtesy Invite… Courtesy RSVP? Rant here

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1501 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yes, this is annoying!

Post # 4
46607 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Luckily , it was the FIL’s who wanted these invitations sent. So, I’m with you. They can do the follow up.

Post # 5
1843 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I had the same thing happen.  My mom insisted we send invites to her brother and his two grown daughters and their families who live on the other side of the United States.  I had no problem sending them an invite, but two weeks before the wedding, we hadn’t heard from ANY of them.  I sent them an email, no response.  I sent them a second email and finally got a response from my aunt who said, “I just assumed you knew we weren’t coming.”  Why would I assume anything?  The RSVP has a return envelope with a stamp on it – mail it back.

I’m with you – we’ve had several people who I was sure wouldn’t come but they are (and traveling from far away), so it’s really not safe to assume anything.

Post # 5
54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yep we did a ton of those and a whole bunch of people we didn’t expect are surprising us and will be attending and the rest haven’t sent back their cards.  It’s like, geez we put a stamp on it, and we asked you to send it back, if you’re not coming that’s fine, just let us know!

Post # 6
12 posts

My Mother-In-Law (who is normally very responsible) did this, and it drove my mom, Darling Husband and I crazy. She wasn’t eager to call them for a response, and we had to keep nagging her about it.  
It’s just rude not to respond to a request for an RSVP, especially for a wedding.  You have six thousand details running around your head, and it’s ridiculous for them to expect you to start playing a guessing game on top of that.


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