Post # 1
i know this subject has been brought up ad nauseam, but I just have to add my two cents.
My Future Mother-In-Law & parents came up with so many “courtesy invites” for the guestlist and so and so would be soooo offended if we did not send them an invitation (i.e. using the invitations as wedding announcements), so I let them add them. NOW it’s payback, b/c now they are responsible for calling all these people to see if they are indeed coming.
I don’t like the reasoning “oh, it’s so far, they won’t fly all the way east for the wedding” well I’ve had a few surprise Yes RSVPs (which I am psyched about!) from long distance guests. I’m happy about that, I just need an accurate headcount.
So if I showed the “courtesy” of sending you an invitation, why not show me the same “courtesy” by mailing back your stamped RSVP? Or call, email, text and let me or the ‘rents know that you are or are not coming!
Deep breathe. Wooosah. Okay, rant over. I just had to get that out.
Post # 4
Luckily , it was the FIL’s who wanted these invitations sent. So, I’m with you. They can do the follow up.
Post # 5
I had the same thing happen. My mom insisted we send invites to her brother and his two grown daughters and their families who live on the other side of the United States. I had no problem sending them an invite, but two weeks before the wedding, we hadn’t heard from ANY of them. I sent them an email, no response. I sent them a second email and finally got a response from my aunt who said, “I just assumed you knew we weren’t coming.” Why would I assume anything? The RSVP has a return envelope with a stamp on it – mail it back.
I’m with you – we’ve had several people who I was sure wouldn’t come but they are (and traveling from far away), so it’s really not safe to assume anything.
Post # 5
Yep we did a ton of those and a whole bunch of people we didn’t expect are surprising us and will be attending and the rest haven’t sent back their cards. It’s like, geez we put a stamp on it, and we asked you to send it back, if you’re not coming that’s fine, just let us know!
Post # 6
My Mother-In-Law (who is normally very responsible) did this, and it drove my mom, Darling Husband and I crazy. She wasn’t eager to call them for a response, and we had to keep nagging her about it.
It’s just rude not to respond to a request for an RSVP, especially for a wedding. You have six thousand details running around your head, and it’s ridiculous for them to expect you to start playing a guessing game on top of that.