(Closed) Courthouse Ceremony, Intimate Reception, but large southern family. Advice?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

This is hard.  I would invite people that are currently closer to me and hope that distant family will not be offended.  As far as the ceremony, just do a quickie reenactment after you are introduced at the party. “He said I DO, then I said I DO, and then we kissed” and then kiss so everyone can applaud!  Good luck, sounds like an awesome wedding and party!

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

kristi79:  I completey understand. The first time I was married I had all this, I am from South Carolina. I also had to invite the distant cousins and aunts & uncles because they are very close too, see (or saw) them 4 or 5 times a year. Since you say you are not that close, I would leave them off the list. Are there any others you can leave out? I had to invite all my parents siblings and my cousins like you, but I knew to count my dad’s one brother and his family out because I have barely seen them since I was about 10, except when my grandfather passed away in 2003. 

I like PP’s idea of how to annouce when you arrive. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

I would only invite those closest to me but I’m having a destination wedding with only 12 guest so I’m probably not the best to get advice from lol. We are doing this because I’ve lost both of my parents and Fiance has lost his mom, so like you, we thought it would be sad. Other than that I just wanted to say my name is also Kristi (yay for the spelling) and I’m in Georgia as well!!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

kristi79:  So you’re not planning on telling people invited it’s a wedding?

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Wow – a lot to consider.  But, do what you want and can afford — you said it yourself.  And I”m not planning on inviting aunts and uncles – period.  But, I know my mother would have a conniption.  

But, close friends and those family members who are near and dear to your heart — that’s my opinion.  Co-workers — meh, unless it’s just your boss and or your employees… but, I can go either way on that part…

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

kristi79:  My mom invited over 400 and we had about 275. I don’t think it is wrong. Can the courthouse accomodate guests? The amount of people that the cafe can hold, is that just a private space for parties, or is it the whole cafe? Can you have dinner there and then invite a smaller group to an after party for cocktails?

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

I am just peeking in for advice because I have a large family but when the time comes hope to have a small, intimate wedding … not sure how to pull that off!  But not telling people it is going to be our wedding was an idea of mine too.  Should cause some people not to attend …

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

kristi79:  Congrats on your upcoming nuptuals! How exciting! I have family in the south, so I understand a bit where you’re coming from.

That being said, I think it’s wise to host what you can afford, and not to invite any more people than you are able to host due to either space or monetary restrictions. What would you do if everyone RSVPs yes? It isn’t unheard of. As you well know, you cannot rescind an invitation once it is out!

I would consider inviting the 60 persons that you can host at the venue. Putitng people outside on the sidewalk might make them feel like second tier guests.

You are by no means required to invite extended family and if anyone is crass enough to ask, you can sweetly reply that you and your Fiance have decided to keep the wedding small and intimate and then change the subject!

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