Post # 1
My fiance and I found out we were pregnant shortly after we were engaged. Rather than having a shotgun wedding, we decided to have a civil ceremony at the courthouse this year (just us) & a religious ceremony / destination wedding next year (for the rest of the family). The reason I wanted to wait to have the religious ceremony/destination wedding is, honestly, because I didn’t want to rush the ceremony and I really always wanted to feel and look my best on my wedding day – I knew I wouldn’t feel that way being pregnant. That said, we’re already married & I’ve already changed my last name. Now that all that has happened, I’m second guessing having a religious ceremony…I’m sort of feeling like what’s the point…we’re already married & I’ve already changed my name. Is it silly to have the wedding ceremony later?? (I know it’s important to my husband). Has anyone been in a similar situation?
Post # 2
We didn’t have a religious ceremony but we did have a civil ceremony done with a wedding later. It was mostly so all our friends and family could celebrate with us since only our parents came for the civil ceremony and most of our friends are back home in California where my husband and I are located in Oklahoma.<br /><br />This is a touchy subject for some people, you may be called a liar and told you’re not allowed to have a wedding since “You already had it”, but if this is something you want to do, then do it, even if it’s for your husband. It doesn’t have to be a huge wedding, it can just be a gathering of people you love the most to celebrate your love.
Post # 3
If you or your husband want some kind of religious recognition of your marriage then I’d do it. You can make it as big or small as you want. Some would not make any changes in how they would plan it from any other wedding. Others would just have a sedate religious ceremony inviting a small group. There could be anything in between.
It’s always a point of contention here whether you should use “wedding” in invitations to such festivities. It sounds as if most people already know you’re married since you’ve changed your name? If so I’d probably word invitations something along the lines of “join as we are joined together by God” or some such.