(Closed) Eloping/Courthouse vs. Wedding—Vent kind of. Long Sorry

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2261 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would say yes, you are being a tad spoiled-sounding…. but reading your post told me otherwise. 🙁 I’m sorry you are in such a situation right now!

I am also wedding planning with a mother who wants something I do not. My parents are also paying. It pretty much kind of stinks the way it makes us feel…. BUT I understand you seem to be grateful towards your family so it’s okay to feel this way. As long as they realize you are thankful to them for all they want to do.

I think it IS unreasonable of them to ask you to wait an entire year after said wedding date. That would stink majorly! It’s your day, not theirs to tell you to wait a whole year so they can pull off the wedding they want for you. I think it’s one thing to listen to people’s opinions but another to be asked to wait so long when your wedding date is already set with your FH.

The way I see it (correct me if I am wrong)… you want a small wedding, your family is worried they can’t pull off the big wedding they have dreamed of so they are asking you to wait if it doesn’t work…. Unless you really WANT to go to a courthouse, I would talk to the ‘rents and maybe bargain for a smaller wedding in place of the large one or if the large one doesn’t work…. say a small, garden wedding with the people you really care about and a bigger reception for people they want to be there?

It’s okay to feel scared that the wedding may not happen…. but there should be no reason you can’t still have the wedding on that day. * e hugs and I hope I helped at least a little !*


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