Post # 1
I feel like my whole life I always try to be different and I look back and wish I would’ve done something more traditional. I’m having a hard time between a courthouse wedding or a small 50 person wedding. i don’t want to look back and wish I would’ve spent that day with family or look back and say man where did that $$ go!? Family is important to me but I’m a really simple gal at the same time! Help!
Post # 3
I’m planning for a pretty small wedding with a lot of DIY touches to keep costs down. I think if it’s done right, you can save quite a bit of money and have a fun time with your closest family and friends.
Post # 4
I would do a small get together wedding. You don’t have to go all out.
Post # 5
@mackenzie810: Do a small wedding! My wedding was supposed to be 97 people but ended being like 87? It was intimate and SUPER special…We actually needed a court house wedding for military reasons and although some being go to the JOP and are happy, I was not. If it would be your slice of pie then I say go to the courthouse! Personally I would have hated not having the emotional and personal feelings the wedding brought.
Post # 6
@mackenzie810: Depends on how much money you have to think “where did it go?” In 1999 I got married with 35 guests, no food, just cake and pie. The only flowers were my bouquet, 3 Bridesmaid or Best Man bouquets and 6 boutineers (sp?) for the guys. No DJ, no dinner, no alcohol. And my dress was only $400. I still spent $2,000 on that wedding.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
Untraditional is not a big deal. Go with what you want. I got luck/unfortunate. I am actually getting both of my dream weddings. Due to unfortunate events I had a civil ceremony in a park to keep me covered with medical. We are also having a big 60 person halloween themed wedding at Disney next year to celebrate.
Post # 8
Thanks ladies! Seems like I should go with the small wedding. I want to do all the bride stuff I just think I was getting too antsy and a courthouse wedding is quick so I was leaning towards that. Thanks again:)
Post # 9
@mackenzie810: I think you answered your own question. If family is really important to you and you will regret not having them there, then you should plan something that incorporates them.
That could mean inviting them to the courthouse with you for a small JOP ceremony and then a lunch/dinner afterward. Or you could do a small wedding where there is a meal or just cake/punch (if budget is a concern).
Post # 10
We had a 24 person wedding in our living room and my husband loved that but I wish that I would have done the bigger wedding ….but saying that I am pretty cheap so it wouldnt have been more than 50 more people, a real wedding dress and a nice dinner
Post # 11
I am really simple and for awhile was ready to scrap our small wedding and do a courthouse wedding. For me, it felt really silly to throw a huge party for random people I don’t know very well (DH has a large family, and we got married in his home state).
Now that everything is said and done, I am really glad we had our small wedding. We had 55-60 people there and it cost us about 6k.
Post # 12
Do it in your backyard or something!
That way family can all come, it can still be as traditional or non traditional as you want, and you can save a bunch of money
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I had a small wedding and I highly recommend it. Looking back I think I would have been disappointed with a courthouse wedding because we really enjoyed being able to share our day with our family and close friends. We set a small but management budget and then planned out an amazing backyard party that we just happened to get married at. Thinking of it as a backyard party took a lot of the stress of planning off and made it easier to stay within our small budget. Good luck!