(Closed) Courthouse wedding, dental emergency, regrets and jealousy

posted 8 years ago in Family
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  • Post # 3
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Sorry your are feeling sad about not having a more formal wedding. You could always do a more formal vow renewal and invite more people to that. You could wear a nice gown and have a more personalized ceremony and reception.

    Post # 4
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I sort of understand how you feel…we didn’t exactly elope, but it was a small ceremony and dinner with only 30 people. My coworker is getting married this weekend and his wedding will have all the bells and whistles- open bar, a band, the father daughter dance, the mother-son dance, toasts, a HUGE bridal party, a $1200 wedding dress, a bus taking the bridal party from the church to the reception, etc., AND they’re having a real honeymoon- my husband couldn’t take vacation time when we got married so it’s indefinitely delayed. I am a little jealous, but when you add up the amount of money (around $25,000-most of it paid for by parents but the couple spent some of their own money) and the amount of stress- she has already called him three times today with some crisis (not even counting the months of planning and appts leading up to this week) over one day and it’s just not worth it to me.

    If you want to have a reception later, and wear a pretty white dress, go for it! The important thing is you are now happily married.

    Post # 5
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m eloping, so I may be biased – but your marriage and ceremony sound incredibly romantic and intimate.

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2008

    I know you’re envious- but I think your ceremony sounds amazing. You didn’t deal with all the wedding b.s. it was about the marriage. 🙂

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    You should not feel bad for being envious. Envy is a natural emotion, it comes because whenever we choose one door, the rest slam shut. Your ceremony was right for you at the time, and it sounds wonderful and romantic. Not in the big hollywood movie kind of way, but in the way a simple piano ballad is romantic (this from a girl who cries every.single.time she hears “Fools Rush In”), it’s the purest reflection of your love. 

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I love what you did!  On your 5 year wedding anniversery you could have a recommittment ceremony and have lots of time to plan and save for a bigger celebration.  Enjoy the closeness that you had and cherish dancing with your husband until wee hours of the night.  How romantic.

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I second the posters that said you shouldn’t feel bad about being envious.  That’s a natural feeling.  I always said ‘yeah, I’m so happy for you’ everytime someone got engaged and I was still waiting, I was genuinely happy for them, but then I’d hang up the phone, filled with envy that another person got engaged.  It doesn’t make anyone a bad person for feeling that way.

    I also think you could look to the future when you and your Darling Husband are more financially stable.  You could put together a vow renewal and have the ceremony and reception and details you’ve always wanted.

    Post # 10
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    Did you make  a decion or get answers?

    Are you going to do a nice renewal party?

    Also, I hope your health improved!

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