Post # 1
My fiance and I are getting married in November in a simple courthouse wedding. He’s in the military and going to Iraq in January so we’re just doing the small ceremony now.
Anyway – I was wanting to know if anyone else had done something like this and could give me any advice. I have all the info about the marriage license and making the appointment and all that…it’s all taken care of. As far as "guests" go, it’s going to be just close family – about 15 people…and we’re just going out to eat afterwards…But what should I wear? What about a cake? Flowers?
Please give me any advice you can!!
Thanks in advance. 🙂
Post # 3
I have not done this myself but I have heard some stuff about it. I have heard that some courthouse brides wear a wedding dress (though usually one on the simpler side, probably without a train since you won’t be processing down an aisle) whereas many others just wear a nice dress, not necessarily something white or even very "wedding-y." On the whole courthouse weddings are much less formal than those in other places. Your groom would wear a nice suit rather than a tux. Although really it’s up to you in what you feel comfortable in—if you want the fancy dress, wear it!
For flowers you could make yourself a small bouquet to hold if you like although I can’t imagine what other flowers you would need, since you won’t be decorating any venues. At the restaurant it’s conceivable you could have a cake, but not a traditional layered wedding cake since you will have so few guests. You could have the waitstaff bring it out and slice it for you at the restaurant. Or, if you are nearby your house or your parents’/in laws’ houses, you could go back to their place after dinner and have cake there.
Post # 4
I eloped, which is kinda similar and I wore a beautiful blue silk dress suit from Saks and heels. I ordered a bouquet and a bout from our hotel (The Bellagio has an amazing floral department, btw) and those were the only flowers. You can order just a bouquet and/or bout from a local florist with about two weeks notice. We got married on my birthday, so when we went to dinner afterwards our parents had arranged for a birthday cake for me. You could do something like that. Mine was just a small 9 in. round cake. It was yummy. We also had our "first" dance at the bar in the lobby of the Bellagio. Where there is music there can be a first dance. Have fun!
Post # 5
I second the cake thing – or whatever dessert you like the best. Check out Nordstrom online for great dress ideas – I like this one, but you might prefer something else. http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2911192/0~2376776~2374327~2374331~6014155?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=category&searchtype=&pbo=6014155&P=2 or this one – http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2980339/0~2376776~2374327~2374331~6014155?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=category&searchtype=&pbo=6014155&P=1
You could do a really cute birdcage veil or something.
Also, either make your own bouquet with flowers, some floral wire/tape, and by wrapping a ribbon around it, or get it made by a grocery store like Safeway, Wegmans, or Giant (depending on where you live). You can even order some online from 1800flowers or proflowers if you don’t have a grocery store with a florist. You could also consider getting flower petal cones to give your family members so they can throw them on you when you guys come down the steps. (This is also done with bubbles.)
I’d say, if you aren’t having a photographer, definitely don’t forget to bring a camera and a friend or family member who is really handy with it. That way you can put together a nice album at mypublisher.com or somethnig to remember the day, and give your husband a copy when he goes to Iraq. You’ll get a internet book much faster than a traditional wedding album.
Post # 6
thanks for all the ideas!
i love the birdcage veil idea…i’m going to have to look into that.
i tried on this dress the other day…except in black:
i was thinking about him just wearing some nice khaki slacks and a button down shirt…maybe a tie. we’ll see.
unfortunately, both of our families are coming from out of town, so we’ll have to go to a restaurant or somewhere else, since my one bedroom apartment can’t fit anyone.
thanks again for all your ideas. you guys are great!!!
Post # 7
@roxamafox: Hi..its funny that I found your blog. I will be getting married to a marine at the courthouse because he is going to deploy to afghan in january lol. So I was just wondering…what did you do? I cant deside on what kind of dress (short bridal dress or cute white dress?)