(Closed) Courthouse wedding. Unhappy mother.

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
2548 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think that you need to do what you want to do because otherwise you will have regrets. You may still have a few regrets because your mother is not happy, and other things that may make your day not as special as you always dreamed, but in the end doing what you want most, is what will make you most happy.

Post # 4
Member
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Mom is just looking out for her baby girl.  Especially if you started out planning a wedding, you’ll have to convince her (and yourself!) that you’re really ok letting that idea go.  I know my mom would be 100% ok with it and behind me if we had truly wanted a courthouse wedding, but she’d be asking the same questions!

If she wants to help, enlist her to help you put together a nice dinner party for the closest of your friends – for next weekend! 

(Also – depending where you live – go get that marriage license first thing next week, and spend this weekend making sure you have all the documents you need!)

Post # 5
Member
1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Maybe go to the courthouse with a few bells and whistles that would be nice for mom and daughter. You know, make an afternoon of dress shopping, order a flower bouquet, shoes, her dress. Make the day special for both of you. I would think your fi would support it and it wouldn’t cost much. You would be splurging but mega small. That’s my advise anyway! 🙂

Post # 6
Member
1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Maybe go to the courthouse with a few bells and whistles that would be nice for mom and daughter. You know, make an afternoon of dress shopping, order a flower bouquet, shoes, her dress. Make the day special for both of you. I would think your fi would support it and it wouldn’t cost much. You would be splurging but mega small. That’s my advise anyway! 🙂

Post # 7
Member
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think that there must be a happy medium between a wedding and the court house–if you want one.

I just think if you’re willing to strip it all away, why not just have an intimate wedding one evening in your mother’s house or something like that?

Of course if the courthouse is what you want, then you should do it. But I think you could take your dress and your man, find an officiant and do it when and wherever you want to with just as much ease as going to the court house. 

Good luck and congrats. I feel overwhelmed with plans and I just got engaged on Saturday, so I can’t imagine how you feel! LOL

Post # 8
Member
163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@zestedlemon:  Your mom is disappointed because you have been planning a wedding, and you’re canceling less than 3 months beforehand! Even if she would have been fine with a courthouse wedding, I’m sure the excitement of her daughter walking down the aisle is a little hard to let go of.

That being said, don’t do anything you don’t want to do. It’s you’re day, and I’m sure that you’ve felt all kinds of pressure and disappointment. I would have loved to have done ANYTHING smaller than my actual wedding (which won’t even be that big!) but Fiance isn’t on board. 🙁 as long as Fiance & you are happy with it, do it!

Post # 9
Member
7366 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

You could always let your mom throw you a party at a later date if she wants to.  My parents did this for me for my first marraige where we eloped.

The topic ‘Courthouse wedding. Unhappy mother.’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors