(Closed) Cousin Copied My Wedding Date

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’d be pissed, that’s super rude of him when they could have planned any other day. It’s also pretty shitty of your family members who are now deciding not to go to your wedding even though they’ve known about it for months. 

Post # 17
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

Yeah. id be really annoyed. At least everyone in the family knows he’s the dick since you already sent out your save the dates. Some small satisfaction in that.

Post # 18
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893 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

You don’t own the day.  Get over it.

Post # 19
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

lexirose05202016:  Wow, that’s crazy.  I can’t believe he did that!  I also come from a big, tight knit family and if anything like that happened in my family it would be a scandal.

I think you have the right to be upset, but I don’t think there is anything you can do about it, unfortunately.  Do you think there is any chance it was a mistake on his part?  That he didn’t realize he was double booking the family?

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

lexirose05202016:  excuse my language but what kind of BS is that???? I’m sure they could have had it a week or two apart just out of consideration!!! For his fiancé aka future wife to give him the okay knowing that you planned that day first is outrageous !!!! You sent out you’re save the dates so they knew about you’re wedding date. Thats not fair. I can see how this will take affect on family 

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016 - Cellar 222

kipper88:  I honestly don’t see how she’s out of line for being upset here? This isn’t being mad someone had a wedding the same month as you did…their families overlap. Some people are going to have to choose which wedding to go to and the only thing they’ll have to go on is which person they’re closer to. That sucks for both OP and her guests.

Post # 22
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

kipper88:  Dollars to donuts you wouldn’t have the same response if your cousin had scheduled their wedding for the same day as yours.

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I don’t think I could even name one of my third cousins… 

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

kipper88:  she never said she owned the date she was just expressing how this would be an issue for family. Get over yourself LOL

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Malibou Lake Mountain Club

lexirose05202016:  wow. i am deeply sorry :-/ this is really inconsiderate and really awful too that family members are put in the predicament of which wedding they will go. It sucks because YOU had done everything to announce your wedding. Thats a low blow. So so sorry

Post # 26
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1600 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Lol I can top this stor! we got married in August… Also had a long engagement and sent out save the dates. My second cousin, who lives in the same town… picked the same date… And wait for it….THE SAME VENUE!! she literally picked the room beside mine. it put so many family members in an awkward situation, having to choose a wedding. Some family members said no to both weddings, or came to one but dropped a card off at the second. I was pissed at first, but realistically everyone knew I booked mine first, so joke was on her.

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee

I don’t even know if I have a third cousin…just had to google it to know for sure what it even is. While I get its annoying for the family invited to both, it doesn’t really affect you, op. Some guests will go to their wedding, but its not really the end of the world. Are you close with this cousin? Just because he was sent an STD or invite doesn’t mean he remembered what your date was when picking his own. There could have been many factors in his decision. I honestly wouldn’t let it bother you and be gracious and understand toward those guests who have to choose and might choose the other wedding instead of yours. Be the better person. Like you said, you can’t make them change it, so just roll with it! Try to find any good in the situation (less guests = less money for catering?) and try not to let it get you down. 

Post # 28
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

You’re getting married on a Friday (my wedding is 5/19/16!!), not even the most popular wedding day so I feel like they had to consciously pick that date…and if they just recently picked their date, they’re cutting it close. I think it’s bullshit and I’d be very annoyed…even if I can’t name any of my 3rd cousins haha.

Post # 29
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

teacherbee01:  what the?  People be crazy

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

…and?

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