Post # 151
She’s crazy! Lol I guess she’s the only one who can have a beach weddingZ she’s jealous instead of being happy for you and giving you pointers from her experience she writes you a message like that. People are so inconsiderate. Good thing she’s showing you her true colors like another bee said weddings bring out the best and the worst in people 🙂
Post # 152
- Wedding: December 1969 - City, State
She is absolutely ridiculous but do not stoop to her level. I think some of PPs’ comments are hilarious, but I see no point in replying to her message. Just be the bigger person, the gracious bride-to-be. People will eventually find out why your cousin is not there.
She could still realise she was being petty, apologise and show up with that gift and an apologetic smile. I would not count on that though. So just enjoy wedding planning!
Post # 153
It’s too bad that she’s decided to be upset about this. Hers wasn’t the first beach wedding in the fall and it won’t be the last. I like the suggestion to just say “ok, I’m sorry you feel that way, you’ll be missed,” and then let it go. This isn’t your burden to carry.
Post # 154
This topic was three months ago. She said her wedding was in Sep. So, I’m sure it’s already over.
Post # 155
text her back saying its a good call because you’re going to be wearing a long white dress too.
Post # 156
Yeah that is crazy. And I am torn on the fact that she admits this openly to you. I seriously can’t decide if that makes it more or less crazy. Sounds like she might be suffering from some sort of wedding-related post-partum depression. Something about how her wedding went/didn’t go has stuck with her. She sounds like the kind of person who might be or need to be on meds for mood disorder or something.
I got married in October, as did a LOT of my freinds. I didn’t even realize/notice/care until FB you see that so many people are celebrating anniversaries. It doesn’t bother me, there are only so many great times of the year to get married! And the beach thing… .there are only so many typical wedding spots. Beaches, estates, farms, country clubs… Most weddings share a lot of similarities with all other weddings.
So….. I’d chalk to this up to poor cousin is mentally unstable. Honestly, try to feel bad for her because something is just not right there. You will have so many people you love there to support you, your day will be wonderful without this cousin.
Post # 157
im sorry but she’s crazy. LOTS of people get married on beaches, and im sure lots of people get married in september. I hope this girl doesnt have a ton of friends, cause she might not have a ton left once they start getting married….
Post # 159
I realize this was 3 months ago and you’re already married (Congrats!) but I did want to confirm that she’s nuts. I have close cousins and if any of them just randomly declined without mentioning it to me I’d totally ask. I think it’s normal. And you, rightly apparently, thought it might mean she was mad and obviously didn’t want to unknowingly hurt her. But look- literally two weeks after my wedding my (distant) cousin said his fiance (who couldn’t make it to my wedding) was looking at venues and fell in love with mine and he recognized it. He text to ask if it would be ok if they used it and I was like DUH. My wedding was over, why the fuck would I care if someone else I know got married IN THE EXACT LOCATION? Your cousin is insane. And THREE YEARS later she thinks she still has dibs on the TYPE of location and month? She needs serious help.