(Closed) Cousin declined wedding invite for this reason… WTF?!? (poll)

posted 4 years ago in Family
  • poll:

    That shit cray.

    It's understandable

    Uh...what?

  • Post # 31
    Member
    7683 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I want to get married on a beach. Maybe in September. Should I check with her first? Because I’m sure she’s the only bride who has ever done that and probably filed a patent or something. Not. 

    Is she one of those women whose only achievement in life was to get married? And her wedding is the only important thing (in her mind) that ever has or ever will happen to her? And you are somehow stealing her thunder (3 years later, on a different beach…) by having some similar elements? I feel sorry for her. 

    Let it go. I wouldn’t even respond. She clearly needs time to heal. 

    Post # 32
    Member
    200 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    What a delusional, sad and pathetic perspective. 

    Dont respond. Let her eventually (hopefully) feel embarrassed. 

    Post # 33
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    3109 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

    I need to hear from the 4 bees that think it’s understandable. 

    OP this is insane. 

    Post # 34
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    4290 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    She’s a straight up dickhead. Wow! Can’t believe the audacity/egomania of some people!

    Post # 35
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    1683 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: Malibou Lake Mountain Club

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    twistaway :  well, all i can say, at least you wont have to deal with her selfishness on your wedding day. Embrace your day with your loved ones <3

    Post # 36
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

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    twistaway :  I wouldn’t respond to that at all. She’s a petty drama queen and this absurdity does not deserve a response. Since she’s family, I wouldn’t tell her off or permanently cut ties. But I also would not waste time trying to change her mind or show her she’s mistaken or get back in her good graces. I would just let it go and see how she acts next Christmas (or whenever you get together). Maybe she was always this way and you never noticed, or maybe she morphed into a permanent bridezilla at some point. Either way, she’s not your friend anymore and it seems like you’re better off without her.

    Post # 37
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

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    purpleb52 :  uh seriously why would it matter if she duplicated some parts of her cousins wedding? Everything has been done and redone! 

    Post # 38
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    4846 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I feel like there’s missing details. 

    Post # 39
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    7683 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

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    peegee :  Yes! 

    Post # 40
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    2240 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Heh — she thinks you’re copying her wedding. 

    Brides come here every so often with suspicions that someone they know is copying their event. It’s interesting to see the other side of this, especially with the texts.

    Weddings that take place in a similar setting in the same month can be so different. I suspect this will dawn on her when she sees some of the pictures from your day. 

    Have fun on your day and pay her no mind. 

    • This reply was modified 4 years ago by  Jen9595.
    Post # 42
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

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    peegee :  Yep. 🤔

    Post # 44
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    Bumble bee

    Her reasoning about similarities is not understandable.  If you’d been married Aug 31st, would that have been OK since it wasn’t in sept?  

    However, this is why it’s best to accept a decline gracefully saying “so sorry you can’t come.  You’ll be missed.  Lets get together soon and catch up” rather than press for reasons. You even opened the topic by asking basically, “did I do something?”  Again, her reasons do not portray her in a favorable light, but they shouldn’t have been questioned in the first place.  

    Post # 45
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    1908 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

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