Post # 31
I want to get married on a beach. Maybe in September. Should I check with her first? Because I’m sure she’s the only bride who has ever done that and probably filed a patent or something. Not.
Is she one of those women whose only achievement in life was to get married? And her wedding is the only important thing (in her mind) that ever has or ever will happen to her? And you are somehow stealing her thunder (3 years later, on a different beach…) by having some similar elements? I feel sorry for her.
Let it go. I wouldn’t even respond. She clearly needs time to heal.
Post # 32
What a delusional, sad and pathetic perspective.
Dont respond. Let her eventually (hopefully) feel embarrassed.
Post # 33
- Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman
I need to hear from the 4 bees that think it’s understandable.
OP this is insane.
Post # 34
She’s a straight up dickhead. Wow! Can’t believe the audacity/egomania of some people!
Post # 35
- Wedding: Malibou Lake Mountain Club
well, all i can say, at least you wont have to deal with her selfishness on your wedding day. Embrace your day with your loved ones <3
Post # 36
I wouldn’t respond to that at all. She’s a petty drama queen and this absurdity does not deserve a response. Since she’s family, I wouldn’t tell her off or permanently cut ties. But I also would not waste time trying to change her mind or show her she’s mistaken or get back in her good graces. I would just let it go and see how she acts next Christmas (or whenever you get together). Maybe she was always this way and you never noticed, or maybe she morphed into a permanent bridezilla at some point. Either way, she’s not your friend anymore and it seems like you’re better off without her.
Post # 37
uh seriously why would it matter if she duplicated some parts of her cousins wedding? Everything has been done and redone!
Post # 38
I feel like there’s missing details.
Post # 40
Heh — she thinks you’re copying her wedding.
Brides come here every so often with suspicions that someone they know is copying their event. It’s interesting to see the other side of this, especially with the texts.
Weddings that take place in a similar setting in the same month can be so different. I suspect this will dawn on her when she sees some of the pictures from your day.
Have fun on your day and pay her no mind.
Post # 41
I assure you there aren’t. At least not on my end!
Post # 43
Hers was straight Pinterest beach wedding theme.
Ours is mid century kitsch…think lawn flamingos, Elvis, records, etc.
It just happens to be on a beach during the month of September.
Post # 44
Her reasoning about similarities is not understandable. If you’d been married Aug 31st, would that have been OK since it wasn’t in sept?
However, this is why it’s best to accept a decline gracefully saying “so sorry you can’t come. You’ll be missed. Lets get together soon and catch up” rather than press for reasons. You even opened the topic by asking basically, “did I do something?” Again, her reasons do not portray her in a favorable light, but they shouldn’t have been questioned in the first place.