(Closed) Cousin declined wedding invite for this reason… WTF?!? (poll)

posted 4 years ago in Family
  • poll:

    That shit cray.

    It's understandable

    Uh...what?

  • Post # 61
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2018

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    juanita.kelly.9 : < probably rsvps “no” to weddings in the same month/location as hers. 

    Post # 62
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    Literally I’d say ‘Fuck off, you’re not invited anymore you asshole”

    HAHA what a bitch. =P

    Post # 63
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    Wow, what a pleasant person. I would be glad that this breed of crazy wouldn’t be at my wedding, to be honest. I mean really, does she think that she owns beach weddings in September now? One of my FSILs got married at a winery in the Yarra Valley 4 years ago – my Fiance and I are getting married at a winery (a different one, but still) in the Yarra Valley later this year. I haven’t heard one word of complaint from her – she even offered to give us all the info she had on the winery they got married at in case we wanted to use the same one.

    Post # 64
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

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    juanita.kelly.9 :  Agreed. 

    OP, I get you may have wanted a reason for her declining the invitation, but she didn’t have to give you one. Yes, her response was bizarre and a bit hostile, but her declining should have been the end of the discussion. 

    Post # 65
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    Bumble bee

    Woah woah woah wait what?!! I went to a wedding the week after mine at a golf course….which I now realize completely violated my completely-original-wedding copyright because mine was at a golf course too! Had I known, I would have shut that show down!! Does anyone know how long this patent lasts? I’m hoping at least 10-15 years, if not a lifetime!

    Post # 66
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    MiniMeow :  I think it’s here where it depends on the closeness of the relationship.

    In theory no RSVP decline should ever be questioned. Obviously you don’t query your aunt who lives on the other side of the country. But when it’s someone close, and you’re not aware of any compelling reason (e.g. health), I think it’s natural to at least ask. If a very close friend of mine had declined, I at least would have reached out and asked about it. 

    Post # 67
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

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    juanita.kelly.9 :  I think family is a bit of an exception. If a close family member declined with no apparent reason I think she is well within her right to simply ask if everything is okay.

    Post # 68
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

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    aussiemum1248 :  I suppose the scenario I was thinking was something like, someone declining for financial reasons (which doesn’t seem to be the case in OPs situation) and then being confronted about why they declined and feeling embarassed by the fact that they couldn’t afford to attend and maybe not wanting to admit to that. I would just worry about making people feel put on the spot in a situation like that.

    Post # 69
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    that girl be a little cray. oh well, dont let it worry you.  wonder what kind of gift you will get from her?

    Post # 71
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

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    twistaway :  I dont tthink texting was the best way to handle it. I think if you are genuinely concened about hurt feelings, meeting someone face to face is best.  I hope she does not hear about you positng the text. 

    Post # 72
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    If her wedding was like a year ago, I would understand (well not really), but uhh her wedding was THREE years ago! And the fact she’s been friendly with you during your wedding planning. Sheesh.

    Post # 73
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I know that her feelings are valid but she could have said something at any point in time while she was talking to you about wedding stuff and being excited but honest with you. I would be like…

    Post # 74
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I so badly want to go to a wedding with lawn flamingos.

    That’s all I have to add to this discussion. 

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