(Closed) Cousin declined wedding invite for this reason… WTF?!? (poll)

posted 4 years ago in Family
  • poll:

    That shit cray.

    It's understandable

    Uh...what?

  • Post # 76
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    Busy bee

    I would send her a link to this post, she needs a reality check. That is just insanity especially from a family member surprised

    Post # 77
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    Fall_In_Love22 :  yes!! This sounds amazing! OP your wedding sounds epic!

    OP, I’m sorry your cousin is being weird. I would be tempted to write back somthing super salty to her, but “I’m sorry you feel that way.” OR “I’m sorry to hear that the time of year and location of my wedding is getting between us. It is only a single day, and we have the rest of our lives to be friends” and then just hope that she feels like a moron. Even if she is feeling salty about the time of year and location, its a thought she is supposed to keep inside her head and not share. Not all feelings need to be shared, especially the irrational ones. 

     

    ORRRR ” I had no idea that you invented the beach wedding. I’m so embarrassed..”

    Post # 78
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    Helper bee

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    twistaway :  she sounds like an entitled nut. Thank the lord she’s staying away 

    Post # 79
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    Wow she is ridiculous and childish. I can’t believe she would miss your wedding! I think I would just not reply to her message, either that or say something angry/sarcastic… and I would probably not be friends with her anymore. I just don’t have time for someone who pulls something so petty and dumb.

    Post # 80
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    Sugar bee

    Who are the ELEVEN PEOPLE WHO THINK THIS IS UNDERSTANDABLE?! Seriously! Who are you?! I need to understand…

    Post # 81
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

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    ilovesophia :  I was about to ask the same question! Seriously curious

    Post # 82
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    Blushing bee

    Um…I have been to TONS of beach weddings. Were all those couples copying her too? And guess what? September is a great time of year to get married – not too hot, not yet cold. Pretty sure she didn’t invent these two things.

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    ilovesophia :  I had this thought too…like who?

    Post # 83
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    She sounds nasty… I would tell her she can keep her “gift minus hotel cost” and that would be my very last correspondence with her. What a nutter…

    Post # 84
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    Busy bee

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    ilovesophia :  me. I had a country wedding. I thought of it first. Bitches be warned. 

    Post # 85
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    One extra thought: I’m not sure if these posts are serious, but I very much disagree with all the posts here saying to be angry back to her or call her out on it. Do I think she’s crazy? Yes. But she’s entitled to her crazy feelings and under no obligation to attend the wedding.

    Say nothing more, except perhaps a polite, “Sorry, we’ll miss you”. Accept her gift and write a nice thank you card, with no passive agressive comments about missing the wedding.

    Post # 86
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    Buzzing bee

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    twistaway : Seriously bee, we need to know what your response was. The suspense is killing me!!

    Post # 87
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    Buzzing bee

    Can the 13 people who voted “It’s understandable” please comment your reasoning? Have courage in your convictions people!! This is an open forum and it’s normal to have differeing views. I’m just thinking there might be a reason I may have overlooked and might make me say, “Yeah…that kind of makes sense when you put it that way”.

    I feel like I won’t be able to sleep tonight until I find out the reasons behind those votes.

    Maybe THAT’S the suspense that’s killing me? Either way, I’m dying from this thread.

    Post # 88
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    Blushing bee

    I had something similar happen to me. I asked my cousin if she will be able to make it to our wedding next year (she lives in another country, I flew there for her wedding 6 months ago) and she said something along the lines of “We’ll see, since my wedding last year all of our friends were so inspired that they are now also getting married so I already have a bunch of weddings to attend that month”. I thought it was hilarious. 😀 I get that you can’t make it because you have other weddings to attend, but to insinuate that all your friends are getting married now because HER wedding was so beautiful just cracked me up. She’s a little nutty like that but otherwise a lovely person so I hope she can make it to our wedding but of course I’ll understand if she can’t due to having R.S.V.Pd yes to someone elses wedding. 

    Post # 89
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    Helper bee

    Who even remembers her wedding 3 years ago!?

    She is being ridiculous, really. Obviously she wants to distant herself and that’s cool. You just saved yourself from a bad “friend”.

    Post # 90
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    Sugar bee

    You asked and she gave you an honest answer. Is it reasonable? No! But she doesn’t have to come to your wedding or explain herself. I agree with a PP – take the high road, OP. Reply graciously and move on to more positive aspects of your wedding planning 

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