(Closed) Cousin Drama

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@zoberger:  i agree.

 

@lotto:  you definitely don’t want to be in the middle of that arguement. 

who is paying for the wedding?  that’s who should make the decision.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2013

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Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2018

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Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

You know what’s nice about young people/people who haven’t planned weddings?  They don’t know etiquette rules (generally).  So, just address the invitation to the cousin.  If she asks if she can bring her boyfriend, say yes.  If she doesn’t ask, no problem.  

 

It’s win-win.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

@MagPie0829:  I don’t think she’s been “very rude.” 
I think OP has just been thinking about it and she came here asking for advice. Nowhere was she actively rude. She hasn’t even sent the invitations yet.

All I see in this post is her chatting with her cousin about her summer plans.

We shouldn’t be so quick to start chanting RUDE RUDE RUDE 

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2018

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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2018

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Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@lotto:  OP how are the other cousins you did not give a plus 1 to going to feel about this cousin getting one? I think the drama will be if you let one cousin of HS/College age bring her boyfriend and not the others. Also if the cousin’s mother is refusing to pay for him to come on her dime he may not be able to make it anyway. Is the cousin’s mother financially supporting her? If so, adult or not she might have to live with her mother’s decision. 

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I would not make an exception for the on again off again BF of a college age cousin if you do not intend to invite  all the other SOs of college aged cousins and guests  as well.   It’s actually offensive to other guests in the same category that don’t get the + 1.  I’d also be inclined to  consider the dynamic it will bring to your wedding.  Considering the couple is not engaged or living together, you are under NO  obligation by etiquette to invite him. 

 

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