Cousin got engaged a week before I planned to propose

posted 2 years ago in Proposals
Post # 2
282 posts
Helper bee

I’d just do it. It might be fun for everyone to congratulate both couples! And I don’t think anyone will think you copied, given that people usually plan proposals for a while. 

Post # 3
251 posts
Helper bee

I have 2 cousins that are getting married 4 weeks apart and were engaged fairly close together as well. No one in my family said anything besides positive things about both of them.

Do it!!

Post # 4
1012 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Do not hold up your life because your cousin is living their life. 

Also, your soon to be fiancé should not have to wait because her boyfriend’s cousin got engaged. 

Anyone who thinks you got engaged to copy your cousin is truly disturbed. 

Life events happen to more than one person at once. This is the only one that people are worried about doing too close to someone else. No one is worried about graduating, getting a job, getting pregnant, curing a disease, getting a drivers license at the same time as someone else. Getting married isn’t unique and people should expect others to do it too. 

Post # 5
1007 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Nope. You get one day. Go ahead with your plans. 

Post # 6
2569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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kiki786 :  do it on Saturday. 

My husband’s cousin got engaged three days before us. If (then) boy friend had decided to wait I would have been gutted. Especially after all the planning he went to for the proposal. 

Congrats on your upcoming engagement. 

Post # 7
1430 posts
Bumble bee

Propose on Saturday as you planned and we look forward to hearing about how it went on Sunday!

Post # 8
2799 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

Go ahead with your plan!

Post # 9
190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Definitely propose as you had planned. Congratulations!

Post # 10
11528 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Definitely maintain your plans. And, if anyone makes an issue of the timing, be honest. Tell them that you’d been planning this proposal for months, had the date chosen and were concerned when you realized that your proposal would so quickly follow theirs. However, it wouldn’t have been fair to make your now-fiance wait just because someone in your family also became engaged during a similar timeframe. Suggest that perhaps you all could go out together for an evening to celebrate both of your exciting news!

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