(Closed) cousin mentioned she wants to wear white…

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1736 posts
Bumble bee

If she mentions it again – yes, say something! Just say, “I would really like to be the only one wearing white on my wedding day. I would love to go shopping with you to see if we can find something amazing for you to wear that day!” Or something like that. Just be nice about it and hopefully it goes over as well as it can!

Post # 4
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

Hah…people like this crack me up. I say let her wear white. She’ll be the most negatively talked about person at your wedding…

Post # 5
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1916 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I don’t think anyone will be confused who the bride is on your wedding day if she shows up, but I’m sure people will definitely be talking about her.

Is she younger?  Maybe that’s why she doesn’t know.  I would probably complain to my mother, so she would say something to my aunt, who would tell her not to wear the dress. 

 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2005

I would tell her no. Who cares if her feelings get hurt? I wouldn’t want her wearing that either!

On the flip side, she’ll look rude and tacky if she wears it and will probably be put in her place.

Pros to both I suppose lol.

Post # 7
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1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@2PeasinaPod:  +1.  Let her look like an idiot if she really wants to.

Post # 11
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1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Wow, I don’t think I’d bother inviting her.

Post # 12
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684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I would have loved if women were wearing white to my reception 🙂 I think it is a colour for celebration! People tend to wear black to weddings here, it always looks like a funeral to me.

I asked all women not to wear black dresses to the bachelorette & reception if possible. A friend of mine spread through the grapevine she would like women to wear red to her wedding. I thought it was a little mean to make us all go dress shopping but it was her day and her culture.

You have the right to ask what you will and will not tolerate from your guests.

Post # 13
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

Then maybe say something to her along the lines of, “You know, it’s pretty bad taste to wear white to a wedding. If you really want to wear it, you can, but I just don’t want anyone negatively talking about you on that day. So you just might want to reconsider.” I feel like this isn’t something you need to deal with. And if she complains to you on your wedding day, tell her that she needs to take a hike. She can only ruin your day if you let her. 

Post # 14
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299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

OMG do people like this actually exist? I can’t imagine the type of person who would purposefully wear white to a wedding then have the nerve to complain to the bride when people say something to her.  What an immature little bitch.  I’d just not invite her if she’s planning on pulling a stunt like that.

Post # 15
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184 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Tell your mom.

If you’re positive that they’ll “tell her off” for it, wouldn’t you rather that happen BEFORE your wedding, rather than AT it?

 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@2PeasinaPod:  agreed. Phrase it as an “education”. If that doesn’t work get out the big guns and tell your mom.

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