(Closed) Cousin Planning To Sabotage My Wedding :(

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh my good gosh. I would seriously consider uninviting your awful cousin, hiring security, and making sure she doesn’t come anywhere near the wedding.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

This whole thing sounds crazy. If anything I would speak to the cousin and her parents first. Its sounds nuts that she would do something like that to a family member, because she get a ton of blow back. You can nip this in the bud by not inviting her, and if she shows up have her escort out.

Don’t bother in going back and forth with her, and expanding extra enjery on her. If you truly beilive she would do something like that, deal with it within the family, then put safegaurds in place. She probably doesn’t want to get arrested and let her know that if she making threats you will call the police.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Uninvite her.  She’s a moocher who is pissed off that you have nice stuff that she thinks she should have given to her because she doesn’t want to work for it.  She also sounds nuts.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

O_o something in her soy milk aint clean

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Wow,  I think your cousin manages to out crazy my SIL.  I hope that since you still have a year you can find a way to make peace, but I would definitly make sure someone is on hand day of to deal with any antics she may try to pull.  

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

If it were me, she would not be invited and security would be posted at every entrance with a picture of her and strict instructions that she is not allowed regardless of who she’s with.  Of course, I dont particularly care what most of my family thinks.  This may not be an option for you.  If you do have to invite her in order to keep peace within the family, maybe you could hire a security guard to follow her around all day to insure she behaves.  Preferably someone who is 6’9″ and 300 lbs…

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

@urchin:  I second this.  Uninvite her and hire security.  You don’t need the drama and stress of wondering what kind of nonsense she may or may not pull on your wedding day.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

Seriously?  She needs a hobby.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper

She sounds very immature and ignorant to how the world works (or at least how social norms work).

I doubt that her parents or whomever will be bringing her to the wedding would let her walk in with a can of red paint, so I’d relax about that a little bit, but I can definitely see wanting to un-invite her.  I wouldn’t want someone who didn’t support me at my wedding!

It sounds like she’s all talk, though, so I might be inclined to just ignore her.  Chalk it up to her not knowing any better (but I sure as hell would not apologise for hosting her at a lovely bbq).

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yeah, I would definitely have a conversation with your cousin and maybe her family and try to work this out. It’s about more than just your wedding, but your relationship afterwards. If is still seems like she’s going to go all cray cray at your wedding, make sure she stays the hell away.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Echoing uninviting her and hiring security.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Print out that FB post, and share it with those who think you’re “overreacting.”

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@MASPA:  Lol this.

And ya, if someone is crazy enough to ACTUALLY do this (my hunch is that she’s all talk), then “uninviting” her isn’t going to stop her. If she keeps talking about it, someone needs to let her know that she’s planning an assault and that the authorities will be notified if she commits a crime.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

You can’t have sent out invites yet, so I would just not send her one. And make it clear to any family members who may be upset by this exactly whyshoe is not invited. I would leave her life choices out of it, the publicly insulting FB status and the fact that she has openly threatened to ruin your day should justify your decision just fine. Perhaps a screen shot of her status is in order in case others don’t believe you?

ETA: I would agree with assigning someone to escort her out if she does come as well!

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