Cousin upset with no children under 13 rule

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 31
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Wannabee

Your wedding, you’re paying for it, your rules and in all honesty she sounds like a whiney brat who thinks going around you will give her what she wants; this day is suppose to be about you guys not her! I’d flat out call her and make it clear to her face or through email however, make it clear no exceptions, sorry if it is trouble, can help you find a sitter, but we are going with what works for *ME and my Fiance* NOT YOU and your special snowflake.

 

Please don’t let her bully you into giving in.

Post # 32
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Honey bee

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

chocochai :  a 10 month old could very well be walking. People sometimes breastfeed until the child is well into toddler hood. Toddlers are probably the ones that brides would least like to have at a wedding (along with crying babies). Why would a responsible parent consider  taking a small child to an adult only event?

Post # 34
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2018

SoCalBride09 :  Stand your ground. It’s extremely common for children to NOT be at weddings. My parents went to a bunch of weddings when I was little and I just stayed with one of my grandparents. If my parents didn’t want to go to the wedding they used me as an excuse…. When a person wants to do something they make it work, end of story

Post # 35
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Blushing bee

I hate the assumption that babies should be an exception to the no kids rule. It’s fine for someone to do that if they wish to, but the expectation of it makes me so furious.

A 10 month whose parents have family support can far more easily be left than a toddler or other young child with no extended family to help with childcare.

If she does not wish to express and leave the child with a sitter, that is totally her call, but she doesn’t get to dictate that her choice to start a family and breastfeed has to mean you have to host her child at your wedding. 

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

jannigirl :  I can only comment on what I know. For many of my friends and family with children that age, leaving them would have been hard (breastfeeding, attachment issues, lack of babysitter, etc). But I’ve also said it’s her choice. I’m confused why my personal opinion of “babies in arms” keeps getting called out when I specifically say she can chose whatever she wants. I’m not trying to force her to do anything. Just offer an alternative opinion that others in her life may have. 

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