(Closed) Cousin/Bridesmaid Drama – What do you think?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I totally agree with you, Liz should not have any harsh feelings against you for not being in your Bridal Party. Also, Julie should not expect for you to ask her sister. The Bridal Party is totally up to you and meant for your closest girlfriends/special people to you. Hmm I say try talking to Juli but if she does not budge than you might want to start lookin for another Bridesmaid or Best Man.

Post # 4
1897 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think thats silly of them to assume Liz should be a Bridesmaid or Best Man.  Sounds to me like having the cousin you’re so close to is totally appropriate.  It always shocks me that people WANT to be BMs!  I would rather pick out my own dress and not have to walk down the aisle, and sit next to my FI! lol…..

Post # 5
294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Ah..that’s a tough decision. I asked my sister and one friend of the family who is basically like my cousin to be in the wedding. I didn’t ask any of my girl cousins to be in the wedding because they all range in age from 40-32 and are married. I was in all of their weddings. It wasn’t an issue–I am however having all their kids in my wedding.

I don’t think it’s wrong of you to want your cousin Julie in the wedding and not her sister. It’s typical that most bridesmaids are un-married and even if not you aren’t that close to her. The thing to remember here is that it is YOUR wedding day. You shouldn’t worry if she will feel offended because like you said, she didn’t have you in her wedding party. I hope that helps. 

Post # 6
169 posts
Blushing bee

Well while I think it would be silly for Liz to be upset, Julie is just being a good sister, like she seems to be a good friend. I would just reach out to her and thank her for being honest and up front and that you cannot wait to see her at your wedding (as a guest) plus she is kinda young so may be a tad immature… maybe, I dont know. But you have to respect her wishes and while you may be her cousin, Liz is her sister…


hope that helps, also don t be bummed I am sure she will still be very involved. 

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