Post # 1
My cousin is planning his wedding for the same day as mine. They know that obviously my parents or myself aren’t going to their wedding, but his future wife sent us invitations (including an RSVP card, which I thought was strange and felt weird filling out).
Should I be sending them an invitation to mine? I’m thinking maybe with a little note wishing them a happy day or something…
Post # 3
I wouldn’t send an invite, I would send a congratulations card.
Post # 4
I would send them an invitation. I invited friends and family from out of state that I knew couldn’t attend the wedding but wanted them to know that they were important to me.
Post # 5
I sent out invites to those I knew couldn’t come.
Post # 6
I would default to sending an invitation. It’s not to say somehow you are expecting them to come. It’s just a way of still including them, and saying that you wished they could, and letting them know they were on the list.
Post # 7
I would send them an invite. Because if they weren’t getting married that day, you’d invite them to your wedding. Its just a nice way to let them know they are important to you.
Post # 8
Thanks everyone. I guess I’m sending them an invite! Mighty Sapphire, I’ll probably be sending my cousin a wedding gift, anyways, so I’ll just put the congratulations on that, I suppose.
Post # 9
that is a little bit strange. we found out that FI’s cousin’s kids (his cousins are his parents age, so he’s closer to their kids) are getting married on our day and we won’t be sending invites or receiving them, we just mutually assumed that the family would be split in half between our weddings.
Post # 10
I would send an invite, but include a note saying you know they can’t make it but wish they could or something.
Post # 11
missjyc – that’s what I thought too, which is why I was confused when she sent me an invite and why I’m asking for opinions now.
I will definitely be sending a note with the invite, since I actually thought it was weird and impersonal when she sent me an invite with an RSVP card and no note acknowledging our conflicting wedding dates.