Post # 1
So I am trying to build our guest list for our wedding next May. We are having a relatively small wedding, between 75-100 guests. Of course, all first cousins have to be invited, or do they? A few of our first cousins, we talk to regularly. Others, I only see MAYBE every few Christmases. I thought I would invite them just to be nice, honestly hoping they don’t come.. but do I really HAVE to invite them? If I do, do I have to invite their children, whom I don’t even know their names? HELP!!!!!!
Post # 3
only invite who you want. if it is a small wedding, people will understand that cuts had to be made.
invite the ones you are close to, not the ones you only see every 3 years.
Post # 4
Invite whoever you want. I wasn’t invited to all my first cousin’s weddings. I’m inviting all my first cousins, but almost none of their children.
Post # 5
How many cousins are we talking? I totally understand space constaints, but I also know that picking and choosing which of your first cousins opens the door to hurt feelings, most likely.
Post # 6
@Gemstone: Agreed. I think this would depend on your family dynamic. You don’t want to cause any hurt feelings or unnecessary drama. Where you invited to the weddings of those that are married?
Either way though, you do not have to invite their children.
Post # 7
In my family, if you invite one cousin, you have to invite them all. It really matters how your family would react to this. You could also make it adults-only and not invite any of their kids.
Post # 8
I am inviting one cousin from my mother’s side….the only one I see on a semi-regular basis, the only one Im friends with on Facebook. The others from my mum’s side I never see and they probably wouldn’t recognise me if I passed them in the street and the ones on my father’s side I see at funerals and other random times.
I think it is up to you which cousins you invite, but if your family has a lot of “drama” then I would avoid inviting cousins who are in contact with other cousins who are not invited. Hope that makes sense!
Post # 9
@ssbridenc2014: Whatever you decide I would suggest that you don’t use the “we don’t really talk, so of course they won’t come to my wedding” method of finalizing your guest list. Because they will come (or at least RSVP yes). I had family I don’t even know invite themselves. (I put the kabosh on that.) But weddings bring out the crazy in people and they decide they will attend perfect stranger’s weddings. I still think it’s weird.