- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
Ugh. Ok– this is SO not what I needed to wake up to this morning!!!
It’s a relly long and involved story, but basically– my uncle is dieing. He has congestive heart failure, and his kidneys are shutting down– they’ve got him on Dialysis among other treatments, but basically at this point, every day is a question and a blessing. My aunt and uncle have 3 choldren (all married, with 2 kids of each of their own) 2 sons and a daughter.
The daughter and 1 of the sons are very devoted and help out a lot with their father while he’s been sick, and even the son’s 2 kids (teenage boys) have gone over to help repair fences, and other odd jobs around my aunt and uncle’s house since my uncle got sick.
The other son (their oldest), who has never been all that involved with family stuff hasn’t. I don’t know all the details, and frankly I don’t want to– but about 5 months ago the 2 brothers got into it, and it was a very public fight that spilled onto facebook and such. They haven’t spoken to eachother in about 2 months.
So– this morning, I got a FB message from the oldest son saying that he has to work this Saturday and thus they wont be able to make it to the wedding. I realized at once it was a pretty thinly veiled excuse, since his working in no way stops his wife and 2 daughters from coming, but honestly I didn’t care that much. I sent him a polite reply, stating that I understood, both FI and I work in production driven industries, and deadlines are common and I left it at that.
I was happy to leave this whole thing here– but then my sister calls me, in full drama queen mode, to tell me that I need to check my facebook– that there’s some drama with the guest list, and that the other son was “keeping” his brother away and wouldn’t let him come to the wedding; and that it was “blowing up” on FB.
Honestly, at this point, I don’t give a damn about the drama, and I have much more important things to think and worry about than some sibling spat that 5 years from now no one will care about. But, I read the post & comments, just to ensure that I wouldn’t be blindsided by anything. And basically, the other brother posted how he was “disappointed” that his older brother wouldn’t be there because he was planning ton confront him about everything that’s been going on between them, and then there were comments from a few other (more distant) family members about how a wedding might not be the best place for something like that, and then his wife chimed in telling him to knock it off, and deal with it later. Again, stupid drama that I don’t care about!!!
So, basically, my cousin isn’t coming because he doesn’t want his brother to make a scene at the wedding. I don’t really care that much– and honestly I’m greatful that he’s being the bigger man and skipping the potential drama. Now I just have to figure out how to get my sister to leave it alone, since she’s already told me twice that she will “demand that the posts be taken down” etc. which will only cause more drama.
::sigh:: Sorry– I know this is mostly just a vent, I just figured it would be better to let it all out here, so I can move past it and focus on more important things.