Post # 1
I have a cousin across the country who is getting married in a couple months. We are not particularly close, but I see his parents more often, and I do like visiting with my extended family. He and his new wife will be invited to my wedding later in the year.
I wouldn’t normally go to the wedding since I am across the country, just went for Christmas, and additionally, I have to fly back a few weeks after the wedding for something else. BUT since they are invited to my wedding, is it kinda tacky for me to not go?
Money is not really the issue since it’s not that expensive of an endeavour, and I actually would feel more rude if I were not going to their wedding because I was saving the money for my own wedding (since they are invited and would have equal travel distance). It’s more the travel time I am not looking forward to.
Obviously I would send a gift either way. Thoughts?!
Post # 3
If you don’t want to go, don’t go.
Post # 4
don’t stress yourself out over it. you’re not obligated to go their wedding just because they’re invited to yours and vice versa.
Post # 5
@emmalyn: I would just send a gift and nice card that says you are sorry you couldn’t make it but that you hope to see them soon or something. If you aren’t particularly close I son’t think they’ll be heartbroken and you don’t have to stress.
Post # 6
Go to the wedding. Enjoy the celebration. It’s a chance to get to know your cousin and his wife a little better.
To be invited to a wedding is a great honour. Its a great shame if you can’t be bothered to go.
Post # 7
I am not a fan of the whole tit for tat thing with weddings.
If you want to attend a wedding then by all means attend.
If you do not want to attend a weddding (cost, travel, time off from work, etc) then don’t go…..
I also do not feel that you need to explain why you cannot attend…….
Post # 8
@emmalyn: You are totally not obligated to go to their wedding and I’m sure that they would understand if you cannot make it.
Traveling is not fun and that much travel stinks but at the same time if might be worth it. is there any part of you that would regret not going and being part of the day?
Just a thought here, but the one wedding I attended while I’ve been planning my wedding was the most fun I’ve ever had and I think it’s because I had a new perspective. I mean I could see the work, planning, meaning, ect. that went into everything. I enjoyed the wedding as a whole new level. You might find you have a similar experience since you are also planning your wedding!
Post # 9
I just wanted to say I agree with you. I hate that tit-for-tat wedding stuff. Drives me crazy.
Post # 10
do you want to go? do you have the time and money to go? if yes, then go.
is there are any reason besides distance that you don’t want to go?
Post # 11
There is no other reason. It’s just because it’s so inconvenient for me to travel there twice so close together.Which is why I feel bad about it, especially considering I want all my family to come here for MY wedding. Hence why I am torn! And plane tickets are a little more than I thought they would be so there’s a little part of me not wanting to spend the money. Also, feel guilty on that front since I want everyone to “spend the money” to come to MY wedding.
Post # 12
The poll is still neck and neck! Thanks to everyone who has voted. I still haven’t decided though!