(Closed) Cousin’s Wife Asked for a +1 at our wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@emersynsmommy35: Are the kids invited to the wedding?

I’d just say I’m really sorry but we do not have space to add any additional people. We hope you can still make it.

Post # 4
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2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would tell them that unfortunately you can not allow her to bring additional guest.  Budget limitations. 

Now, my bestie had ppl just show up even after she explained the budget situation.  Since it was destination and easy to drive to, ppl just decided to show up.  So be prepared for anything.  Just make sure to have a couple of spaces open if this occurred.

Good Luck and don’t let it stress you too much:)

Post # 5
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98 posts
Worker bee

Oh, ick….

I feel very sorry for you.

Honestly, I would say don’t even invite them all.

I am awful

 

Post # 7
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1766 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Just out of curiosity, how do they have income tax money if they don’t have an income?

Post # 8
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3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@AprilJo2011: because their income is from the state AND they have two kids.  At least, that’s my take on it from what I’ve seen of the tax forms.  I have a CPA doing my taxes, but at the same time, I also like looking over the confusing-as-hell (at least for me) form and there is a place on there for that.

Post # 9
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3601 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

So rude. Just sweetly state that the guest list has already been made and there will be no changes made. Then you can say that if she needs to change her RSVP status so that she can better care for her children, you completely understand.

Post # 10
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1766 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@Zinzerena: Ah, ok.  Thanks!  I didn’t know you would actually get money back on your tax return when you live on wellfare.  Seems counter intuitive to withhold too much on wellfare.

Post # 11
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907 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Just tell her, I’m sorry, we can’t accommodate extra guests. End of story, no explanation needed. You don’t need to justify your reasoning to her. If she presses you for Why not, just tell her you have budget and space restrictions.

Post # 12
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3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@AprilJo2011: np! from what I understand, they still take taxes out of the wellfare checks.  So if they make more than x-amount, they have to report it.  weird, dumb, and it makes no sense, but whatever.  

 

@emersynsmommy35: I completely understand where you’re coming from and how you feel. 🙁  I’d feel sorry for the kids’ too!!!  I agree with the others, just tell her no +1.  

soooo sorry you have to go through this!!!

Post # 14
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7413 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Umm wow. I don’t think that whole side note was needed to talk about this +1 situation though LOL, but if you not comfortable with it then say no, end of story.

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