- 2 months ago
I am supposed to fly next weekend to celebrate my friend’s 30th. After the previous drama, things fell into place with regards to accommodation and flights. Then Covid-19 struck South Africa. While there are a lot of restrictions in place for international travellers, there is no domestic travel ban yet, but it is recommended that we avoid unnecessary travelling.
I brought this problem up with my friend. She is not happy about it. The current timeline would be as follows:
Friday – Take a bus and two trains to get to the airport. Fly there, and Uber as necessary, stay overnight in a house with about ten other people.
Saturday – Party/lunch event
Sunday- Church and fly back in the afternoon. Take two trains to get home.
Looking at that timeline, I think that the bus and the trains are very risky. Staying in a house with people from all over also seems risky. So I offered a compromise….
Compromise: Fly down on Sunday morning (the airline is allowing for free date changes), and return that afternoon as scheduled. I get to spend a few hours with her on her actual birthday, and I lessen the risk by not taking the bus, trains, and staying overnight.
She did not take it well. She said that she would rather spend the actual birthday with her boyfriend as there is nothing really happening on her birthday (the party is on Saturday).
I don’t know what to feel/think. Yes, there are currently only 240 confirmed cases as of today, but so did China and Italy and everywhere else at one stage. I also live with two 60-odd-year olds who are heart patients – even if I am of low risk, do I really want to risk spreading it to them?
The irony of all of this is – this friend is a medical doctor, and her mother is a nurse with diabetes and also around 60 years old. And she (the friend) is brushing this Covid-19 business as hysteria (her words, not mine) and when I brought up the fact that I want to cancel, she asked if “the Covid-19 people got to you too?”
The airline is offering free date changes on the tickets, or we can also get a voucher (valid for 6 months) to the value of the old tickets. At the moment, I want to take the voucher option, and fly somewhere in a couple of months time when this dies down, since my friend does not even want to consider my compromise.
I know I am painting her in a terrible light right now, and yes, I am pretty annoyed with her right now – but I promise you, she does also have good qualities in her. My gut is telling me to take the ticket credit to go somewhere later on, and maybe just courier the friend a nice gift…. I wrote all this to get my thoughts in order. Thanks for reading!