Covid19 version: Can't afford to go to friend's 30th… what to do?

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Post # 16
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey

I’d honestly unfriend her. 

Post # 17
1948 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Wow…..this is conundrum for you?  250 and counting as the idiots help spread the virus.  At one point China had over 300 dead OVERNIGHT… a 24 hour period if you need the math.  It took what a few days for Italy to do the same.  Hell they’ve overtaken China in number of dead.

Go to the party OP……let your parents deal with the consequences.  They’ve lived their lives already right?  Its your time to PAAARRTAY!



Post # 18
6918 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

I stopped reading when I got to the schedule- who cares? Your “friend” is selfish and inconsiderate. You feeling ANY pressure to placate her selfish,  inconsiderate ass during a GLOBAL PANDEMIC is stupid and weak and wack. Cancel your flight. Tell that selfish bitch to shut the fuck up. Stop being a punk. Stay in your house. Don’t die and don’t get others sick. Thanks for attending my TED talk.

There are a bunch of people who are currently unable to get home because they thought the restrictions didn’t apply to them- now this one fool lives in Peru for the forseeable future.

You shouldn’t even be open to discussion with this chick about anything related to the trip. “I’m canceling my flight. I know you’re disappointed. A lot of people are right now. It sucks.”

Post # 20
5093 posts
Bee Keeper

Wow. South Africa sounds behind the times. This virus *will* make its way to your continent. Parties are out, and the only reason I’d fly on a plane is if my parents or sister got sick. Sorry, but a 30th birthday party doesnt rate in my book.

Post # 21
156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: City, State

You’re making the right decision Bee stay home and your friend will have to get over it. Honestly she sounds extremely immature and high maintenance I’d reconsider this friendship. Don’t feel guilty for sticking to your decision!

Post # 22
1552 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

It’s very unwise to travel and gather in such large groups right now. I’m sorry your friend is pressuring you like that, but I would stand strong and stay home. 

Post # 23
117 posts
Blushing bee

Not only would I not go, I’d no longer be friends with such a selfish jerk.

Post # 24
84 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Please don’t go. My hubby is from SA, I lived there for a year and his entire family is still there. I am terrified for the country. I feel like the US isn’t handling this well but I can’t even imagine what it will be like in SA with the government and poverty. 


Post # 25
7565 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

If you haven’t looked at Italy, look at all the other countries that started out with “a few” cases. I personally wouldn’t go at all.

ETA: I don’t think people are jumping down your throat. Please remember that many of us are in the US. Our president didn’t take it seriously and we are now seeing thousands of cases a day. It’s scary and uncertain for many people who likely would have taken a trip similar to yours a week or two ago.

Post # 26
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Yeah I woiuld take that voucher option. It’s the smartest and safest choice.

If she MUST have you there can you do what you planned on Sunday but just go on Saturday instead so you can be part of the larger party? I can kind of understand if she booked off Sunday to hang out with her boyfriend and just chill at home.

Post # 27
7176 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

A medical professional ought to be able to see this coming a mile away. Your country is lucky you might be able to get in front of this, but only if you stop things like this party. She is being incredibly selfish and putting so many others at risk. By the time you, as a country, know how many cases there truly are, it will be too late. 

You’re making the right decision not to go. I’m sorry she’s trying to guilt you into something you know is wrong.

Post # 28
13058 posts
Honey Beekeeper

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timonandpumba : “Geez Bees…. No need to jump down my throat – I already said that I want to take the voucher option (as per my gut feel)”

You said you were leaning toward the voucher option, not that you were going to take it. And that was in the same breath as your “compromise” solution.

People are jumping down your throat because you really need to cancel this whole trip. I’m glad you seem to be seeing it that way now. Not even to mention you were never remotely able to justify the cost of this trip in the first place. Stay home and stay safe. 

Post # 29
1809 posts
Buzzing bee

Ummm you use common sense and you stay home. 

How is this even a question???

Post # 30
1152 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

Don’t go. Seriously. And reconsider this friendship. Italy didn’t take this seriously at first. Look at them now. 

A birthday is not that big of a deal. I wouldn’t fly for a friend’s birthday even during good times. 

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