Post # 1
When a coworker asked what I have been doing lately, I mentioned I was really busy with wedding stuff (I never talk about wedding stuff at work unless someone asks about it). He asked what I had been working on and I said mainly registry stuff for now, then of course comes the “where are you registered?” question. Well..I looked at my amazon registry today and said coworker has bought us a gift. We haven’t even sent out any invitations yet! and I never even mentioned inviting anyone from work. We actually had planned to only invite friends and family. Now I feel like I need to come up with a group of people from work to invite…what do I do? I have no idea what the proper etiquette is in this situation…please help!
Post # 3
You dont’ need to invite them. I had co-workers that got married, and I knew I wasn’t going to get invited. I totally understand they can’t invite the whole world. I bought them a gift anyways. I still wanted to give them a gift as a way of celebrating their big day. I received a thank you card and that was good enough for me.
Post # 4
You don’t need to invite any coworkers if you weren’t planning on it.
He asked you for the information and took it on himself to buy you a gift. He did it because he wanted to get you a gift, not to buy an invite.
When you get the gift, just write a nice thank you.
It’s not like you’ve been passing out registry cards at your office and asking for gifts, he asked for the info from you.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I agree with PPs. You don’t need to invite him. Some people will want to be generous whether or not they are invited.
Post # 6
I agree with the others – that was very nice of him, but a thank you note should be sufficient. You don’t have to feel obligated to invite him.
Post # 7
i agree with pp.
maybe your workplace is planning a little shower or something for you and that is why he got you a gift??
Post # 8
PPs are correct, you do not need to invite someone to your wedding just because they gave you a gift. He likely knows he is not invited, since your wedding is 2 months away and he hasn’t received any indication of an invitation.