coworker bringing in child to work with her? TL;DR at the end

posted 2 months ago in Career
Post # 16
5200 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

My general rule of thumb is, I don’t tattle unless my closet is completely empty of skeletons. Unless the child is disruptive of course, or it directly impacts you. If she’s not meeting a deadline that affects YOU, or her personal stuff during work hours creates more work for you or something like that.

It sounds like the gossip about it is disruptive

Post # 17
1737 posts
Bumble bee

I would say something. Why does she get special privileges? Stuff like this can bring down office morale. 

Post # 18
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Iowa

Unless it is directly affecting you, I wouldn’t say anything. It’s not your business (or your corworkers) on how much work she is doing, or what arrangment she may or may not have regarding childcare.

Post # 19
318 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2020 - City, State

Sansa85 :  Ick. How do you know this talk is not happening during breaks? 

Post # 20
396 posts
Helper bee

Stay out if it unless it is affecting YOUR productivity directly. 

Post # 22
634 posts
Busy bee

I’m glad you have decided to stay out of it. Summer child care is outrageously expensive where I’m from and if I was single I wouldn’t be able to pay for it, therefore I’d be bringing my son to work with me too. I wouldn’t like it, but it would be a necessity. In fact, I don’t have care for him on Wednesday’s this month so I’m working from home and he will be with me all day. If the office needs me, he’s coming with me. I’d be devastated if my co workers complained and caused me to be disciplined or worse, fired, for just doing my best to get by on my limited resources. Can you imagine how awful it would be for her to get fired when she’s already in a clearly precarious position as it is? 

Post # 23
3362 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

I’d give them a heads up. If it’s allowed then it won’t be a problem. If it’s not allowed them she shouldn’t be doing it. I’m not sure why this is controversial. 

Certainly not saying finding childcare is easy or inexpensive, but maybe bringing it up WILL bring about change in the workplace and will allow for more child friendly practices like working from home or developing in office childcare.

This could also potentially set up a situation where someone else who doesn’t have childcare who maybe has a more disruptive child will follow suit. Then what? You say parent A can bring their child because they’re quiet but parent B is out of luck because their child might need more attention in the office? Have other parents who might be struggling with the cost of childcare been offered this option? If not that’s incredibly unfair that she gets this option and other parents don’t.

Post # 24
2888 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Unless her daughter is disrupting YOUR work I would mind my own business and leave them be. You have no idea what arrangements she has made with upper management. Being a single mom is HARD. Paying for child care on a single parent income is HARD. I have a coworker who sometimes has to bring her two young children (6 and 3) in with her when we have overtime because she cannot afford extra hours for child care. Her children sit in her cubicle and play while she works. Can they be a little noisy? Sure, they’re kids. Do I mind my own business? Absolutely. 

ETA: Just seen your update. I think you have made the right decision. I can understand not wanting to constantly give another worker little reminders to do their work but it sounds like she is trying. 

Post # 26
743 posts
Busy bee

blueberrywave :  The alternative is Anna stays home to watch her daughter more often, which means no work gets done. I wouldn’t say anything unless it’s disruptive to you and your colleagues. I’ve had coworkers in the past give the office kids something to do, like filing or opening/sorting mail. Are there busy tasks the kid can do to help you guys out? Maybe turn a negative into a positive? 

Post # 27
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

This would annoy me & I would encourage my colleagues to voice their concerns to her manager. 

Post # 28
7732 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Before I became a stay at home mom I worked full time with my oldest child.  I worked an office job (my own enclosed office) in an industry that didn’t close- so I was expected to be there even if it snowed and the schools and her daycare were closed etc. My boss gave me permission to bring my daughter to work in such cases, as the alternative would be I would just have to stay home (no work from home option). Did it annoy my coworkers? Maybe, but hopefully not. But my boss valued my being there- even if it was only at say 75%- rather than being completely gone. That being said, it was like once a quarter, and certainly never 3 weeks in a row.

Post # 29
639 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I disageee with not saying anything. The head of department should know. Single mother or not, she needs to make childcare arrangements. 

Post # 30
452 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Just like in this forum, not all people would understand nor have to tolerate it. But I’m sure it is a huge help for Anna for having an understanding friends. Yes being mom is hard and I’m sure she’s trying her best.

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