Post # 1
I have a coworker who I have had for about four months. We work in a restaurant. She is a single mom to a seven year old girl. We started off getting along fairly well and hung out together some. The issue is that she seems to depend on others to fulfill her responsibilities. She always seems to be low or out of money when her daughter is sick or needs something for school. I helped her out once when her daughter needed an antibiotic. Other coworkers have helped her on other occasions as well. The issue is she is always talking about buying expensive clothes and other merchandise. She also talks about all her planned vacations. She also tries to get myself and others to watch her daughter on weekends. These are people she barely knows! The reason is that her daughter annoys her and her boyfriend. She also says that her daughter and her boyfriend don’t get along. She calls and texts me a lot and won’t ease up at work. She even tells customers about her so called problems.
Should I just ignore her? Should I tell her point blank to stop it?
Post # 3
@Kacey23: UMmmmmmmmmmm wow. Have you stopped giving her money/ handouts? If not then that would be the first thing.
Cut her out of your life. She’s not going to be a healthy friendship. Be polite and easy going but don’t invite her out or soemthing. Unloading her problems to customers (who aren’t, say, regulars) is inaporopriate but that would be your manager’s/ boss’s concern, not yours unless you report her.
As for her daughter I pity the girl but unless she’s in danger (which could potentialy happen since she seems to pawn her off on anyone willing to take her) there’s not much you can do for her.
Post # 4
It’s just so frustrating! I haven’t given her any money lately. I don’t plan on telling our manager. I just wish there was something I could say to her. She has got to wise up!
Post # 5
Point blank tell her to stop, I don’t think she’ll catch the “subtle” message you’d be sending her by ignoring her. She sounds like a toxic person. Her poor child.
Post # 6
I agree that ignoring her probably won’t work. I just have to figure out the right way to go about it!