Post # 1
I shop a LOT because I return about 80% of the stuff I buy- most of it doesn’t fit, so I treat online shopping like mall shopping (taking a gazillion things into the dressing room and leaving with 5).
Anyway, my coworkers have noticed packages coming in for me (I would have them delivered to my home but I’ve had packages stolen that way or lost). The teasing was kind of mild and cute at first but today 2 packages came for me, and my older female coworker said, “You should be saving that money for a house, you’re going to need it.” Then she suggested I “start a savings account”. I already have one!
I actually have over 25K in savings (and I’m 23, so that’s actually not bad at all). I’m not paying off student loans- she has no idea what my financial situation is like! Also, I have a good salary, and I’m not spending it all! I’m not normally offended but I found her suggestion extremely inappropriate. She doesn’t know my financial situation- PLUS I return almost everything I buy anyway.
What would you have said in this scenario? (By the way, I didn’t mean to brag about money- just saying, she doesn’t know what I’m up to with my money!!!!)
Post # 3
@anon00: I agree with you entirely, how rude of her! It’s nobody’s business but your own what you spend your money on.
Either ignore her OR we can think of a snappy comeback to put her in her place next time.
Thinking cap being placed on head for snappy comeback.
Post # 4
@Sunfire: She just made me feel kinda guilty, you know? Like DUDE it’s not even her business lol
Post # 5
@anon00: Just tell her that you love shopping so much that you can never give up. I tell people that. After a while, they just shut up lol
Post # 6
I wouldn’t recommend you send personal packages to your workplace, for a variety of reasons. You are opening yourself up to judgement that way, and it’s also unprofessional.
Post # 7
@anon00: Ya I don’t think it’s anyone’s business to tell you what you should do with your money. I think that if she was a concerned family member, it might be less inappropriate, but a co-worker…mind your own business lady!
Post # 8
@anon00: You must be a nice person for that to make you feel guilty, lol. But look at it in this light, maybe, just maybe, she really was trying to be helpful since she’s older and you’re younger.
But, still, that wouldn’t sit well with me either. You could always say something like, “Well, I only use my million-dollar trust fund money for online shopping, I save the money I make here.” 🙂
Post # 9
That was really nosey and unprofessional. It is none of her business.
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
That’s kinda rude because it’s a personal topic … but when you have a bunch of personal items constantly coming in the mail to your workplace, I think you’re also inviting commentary.
Post # 11
Hate to say it, but both of you were inappropriate. She has no business asking about your private finances, but your personal shopping trips don’t belong at work. I’ll be the first to admit I’ve had a package sent to my work, but it was a very valuable item and I didn’t have a chance to make other arrangements. Once in a VERY rare while is fine, but otherwise, it’s very unprofessional.
Post # 13
Surprised to hear some offices think it’s unprofessional to have personal packages delivered. At my office nobody cares at all and everyone does it, even the boss. In fact, our boss told us to feel free to have things delivered here if we want. We’re a really laid-back bunch, though.
Post # 14
It’s inappropriate. Is your coworker older than you? She probably doesn’t realize how on top of things you are at 23. Annoying!
Post # 15
i agree with above PPs. Her comment was rude and inappropriate, but you invited the commentary by having so many packages shipped to your job.
Post # 16
@MariContrary: +1 This.
Both of you are out of line.
I think if you are sending packages to work, you are pretty much asking for people to comment, or make rumors.