(Closed) Coworker wants to throw me a wedding shower…

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

You have to work with her, so I would invite her and the science teacher and their SO’s.

Post # 4
167 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

I also teach high school for the second year.  I kind of live in the fine arts wing though.


I have no clue if they are going to do anything.  But usually, we host these kinds of things after school one afternoon, and all of the people either chip in like $10 towards a big present, or a gift card.  It’s more of a get together at work than having everyone go out and buy large presents.

Post # 5
348 posts
Helper bee

Some places have a tradition of throwing office showers without the expectation that those who attend will be invited to the wedding.  Can you ask around and see if this is the case at your school?  If so, then it’s just a nice tradition that won’t raise anyone’s expectations.

Post # 7
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Definitely ask around.  It’s often the custom in certain workplaces to have work showers without the expectation that everybody is invited. 

Post # 8
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

I actually think it’s ok for them to offer to throw the shower for you and for you to not invite your coworkers – they offered, so it was up to them and they want to do this for you.  I would enjoy and if by any chance it comes up, I think you can say that you couldn’t invite all your coworkers so you didn’t invite any.

Post # 9
1079 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Perhaps you can suggest that you have a party but they don’t bring presents since they aren’t invited to the wedding. It’s always okay to say you can’t invite them because you’re not having a large wedding, but because of that you’d like to have a party with them.

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